Why Is It So Hard To Stop Eating?

stop eatingI teach my clients how to eat just like naturally slim people eat.

Not people who are on a diet.

Not people who are ‘being good’.

And definitely not people who are holding on for dear life.

So, how do they eat?


They wait until they are gently hungry, not ravenous.

And they eat.

And then they stop eating when they are lightly satisfied.

They might still have the energy to go for a walk.

Or clean up their kitchen.

No need to lie down and unzip their pants after a meal.

Because they don’t eat until they are stuffed.

They know more food is coming as soon as they get hungry again.

So there is no panic. No despair at stopping. Just noticing how their body feels and honoring it.

Okay, this sounds reasonable, right?

But how do you get yourself to stop and why is it so hard?

Natural eaters follow a two-part process. The first part is waiting until they feel physical hunger before they eat.

The second part is waiting for a feeling of light fullness as a signal to stop.

Each part of this equation is hard for some and easy for others.

Most of the women I work with find it easier to wait for hunger to begin eating than it is to notice satiation to stop eating.

Here’s why and what to do about it:

When you are waiting to feel hunger before you eat, well, it’s a one-step process.

You simply wait. You notice. You tune into the radio frequency your body is sending out… and when it begins to read ‘empty’, you get some signals.

A faint grumbling in your stomach.

A lightheadedness for some.

A definite crankiness for others (no names, please).

And then you go about the business of deciding what to eat (based on what’s available) and how to prepare it.

Then you eat.

But in order to stop eating when your body has had enough, there are a few steps involved.

Think about this.

You start.

You enjoy the taste of what you’re eating.

And most of us, at this point, disconnect.

We think we’ve already made the most important decision and so we stop paying attention.

That’s why, despite all of our good intentions, 15 minutes or sooner after stopping, we are overly full.

How do we prevent this?

After we start eating, we immediately decide on a time period to take a break.

Maybe it’s when our food is half finished.

Maybe it’s 15 minutes into the meal.

Or maybe it’s any moment we have pre-chosen to wake ourselves up again.

We set a timer on our phone… maybe just a vibration. Or we notice the kitchen clock.

And at this point, we pause.

Stop eating. Put down our forks and knives.

And reconnect with our bodies.

Check in… am I still hungry?

How do I feel?

We do a reassessment.

And then we make a new decision.

A second decision that puts us back in charge.

If you can master these two steps, the beginning check in and the midway check in, your extra weight will fall away.

Because you won’t be eating enough to support that extra weight.

Let me know how this works for you.

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