My clients, and in fact most people I know, frequently set goals.
For all kinds of things they want to achieve.
Sometimes they achieve their goals.
They make plans, they think the right thoughts, and take the right actions.
But sometimes, they don’t reach their goals.
And often, it’s because their goals are running smack into their belief systems, and there’s a conflict.
So, what’s the way around this?
Do you work harder, longer or faster?
Do you make more plans, bigger plans or different plans?
Maybe you need to take more actions?
It’s none of the above.
First you need to look at your beliefs.
See what they are.
Is there a conflict between what you want and what you believe?
If there is, that work – the work of examining and perhaps changing some of your beliefs, that must come first.
If you want more close relationships, but one of your core beliefs is that you are unlovable, it won’t be easy.
If you want to earn more money but hold the belief that good people don’t care about money, it won’t happen.
Or, if you want a vibrant, healthy body, but you secretly believe that self-care is selfish, you may correctly guess that getting fit will be an uphill battle.
The funny thing is, we all have core beliefs that guide our lives.
We’re just not aware of them.
So, before you set those goals, before you go down the road of glory and achievement, pause.
Spend some time figuring out your deep beliefs.
Look at them and decide whether they serve you.
Deal with them if they don’t.
Then move towards your goals.
Now you’ve got a good shot at reaching them.