I start my day with the best intentions:
- I will stick to my eating plan today.
- I will do a workout early in the day.
- I will drink lots of water today.
But then, something happens that throws me off course.
And I don’t do anything that I planned!
I’m so frustrated with myself and even worse, I am beginning to lose hope that I can EVER get to my natural weight.
What’s wrong with me?
C.S., Brooklyn, NY
There is NOTHING wrong with you.
Read those words again.
And try to relax.
Here’s the deal:
When we’re trying to create new habits, and at the same time get rid of habits we’re not happy with, we all tend to do what you’ve done. That is, make a list, get excited and plunge in.
The first problem with your scenario is that you are trying to change too many things at once:
And even your water intake.
So for starters, pick one.
(Yes, I know you want to do all three yesterday. Still, pick one.)
It’s far easier to put your focus on one desired action than on three.
Pick one and write out your intentions of what you want to do in the morning.
Then choose a way to remind yourself several times during the day to focus your attention on the new habit you want to cultivate.
Most of my clients either set the alarm function on their phones or on their computers to ring or vibrate at different intervals. This wakes you up and reminds you that you want to focus on your goal. There are also small, inexpensive timers… I use one called Gymboss.
Now, another thing I see you doing is a common mistake.
You’re focusing on the action you want to change, for example, you want to drink more water during the day.
Drinking the water is an action.
But what creates that action is the thought you think right before you do it.
So you need to wake yourself up (figuratively) and then program your mind with a thought that will make drinking the water easier.
Some examples of thoughts for this goal are:
- Drinking lots of water during the day gives me energy.
- I feel great when I get enough water.
I’d like to leave you with one more thought and that’s about losing faith in yourself.
If anyone in the world has done or is doing what you want to do, then you know it’s possible.
And if you create the right scenario, with supportive thoughts, and set up your environment for success, then there’s no reason that you, too, won’t succeed.
Think of the things you’ve accomplished in your life that took practice, and didn’t necessarily come easily.
Draw on these memories for strength and resolve. Have faith in yourself.
Then relax and focus on your goal.
You’ll do it.
Take that first leap of faith.