Posts Tagged ‘weight loss journey’

Are You There Yet?

Thursday, September 6th, 2012

Are You There Yet?So. Are you there yet?

Have you reached your goal?

Lost your weight?

Changed your life?

No?

Not yet?

Well, what I want to know is, what are you making that mean?

Are you a dropout?

A failure?

A person who doesn’t finish what she starts?

Or maybe there’s another way to look at this.

Maybe you’re just not there yet.

Maybe you’re on the right road, but you haven’t arrived at your destination.

Does that mean you’ve failed?

No.

Not at all.

Does it mean you’re stuck?

No.

It means you’re taking a pause. A moment.

To just be where you are.

Assess.

Stop fighting.

Stop pushing. And angst-ing. (I made this word up!)

Maybe it’s ok to stop pushing yourself and just accept that your change, your goal, is taking as long as it’s taking.

You’re not there yet.

You’re learning.

Taking things in.

Learning what not to do.

You WILL get there.

As long as you don’t give up on yourself.

Just be where you are without the fight.

See if you can learn from where you are.

When you’re ready, you’ll move again.

But until then, pushing will only get you frustrated.

You’re just not there yet.

That’s all.

Why Does It Have To Be So Hard?

Thursday, March 10th, 2011

hard workI was getting ready to give a local weight loss seminar and I was talking to a friend about it.

I explained that I felt really relaxed, but that as I got closer, I was sure I’d get nervous and anxious about putting it all together.

She shocked me when she said, “Why does it have to be hard?”

I was flustered.

Oh. Right.

Here I was, demonstrating a perfect example of what I see in my clients all the time.

They come to me to begin a coaching program. They bring some baggage with them.

What’s in the baggage?

It’s a combination of excitement and dread.

Yes, dread.

Why the dread?

Because they know this weight loss journey is going to be hard.

How do they know?

Because that has been their experience.

So they’ve accumulated a whole bunch of beliefs about the process of losing weight, all centered around how hard it is.

It doesn’t have to be.

It will be work.

There will be growth.

You need to be willing.

But it doesn’t have to be hard.

Check your beliefs at the door.

Be open to surprising yourself.

The Power of Support

Thursday, January 20th, 2011

SupportA while back, I went to Asheville, NC to spend three days with a group of women I had never met.

We all came together with a common goal: to grow our businesses in the coming year.

Although our businesses were very diverse, we bonded quickly, because we were all on a very similar path. We all wanted to gain clarity, unearth roadblocks, and move ahead. Take action.

When I got home, I sat alone at my desk with a full schedule ahead of me, tons of paper all over my office, and a couple of bad weather school delays for my kids.

Normally I’d feel a little let down.

Deflated.

But, my new ‘sisters’ were rooting for me.

In fact, my friend Lisa Zimmerman reminded us that this year would be the year of ‘no sister left behind’.

And so, with the knowledge that my group was behind me, thinking of me and supporting me, I moved ahead.

  • Cleaned up my office.
  • Emptied my in-box.
  • Took my next action steps.

Because we were all in this together.

When you’re in transition, making changes in your life, don’t underestimate the power of support.

Do you want to change habits and eat healthier this year?

Look around you.

Some of my most successful (and fun!) weight loss clients coach with a friend.

So, ask yourself:

  • Who wants a goal that’s related to what you want?
  • Who always has your best interests at heart?
  • Who will point out your blind side?

Think about asking for support. The beauty of the twosome, or group, is that it becomes larger than the sum of its components. When you brainstorm with a friend, you both end up with more than you started with.

You’ll both benefit.

And, of course, it brings the fun factor WAY up!

Mourn the Loss

Friday, January 1st, 2010

searching

It’s so much easier to believe that the answer to permanent weight loss is out there somewhere.

It’s comforting to think that you just haven’t found it yet.

Haven’t read the right book.

Haven’t heard the right secret.

Haven’t tried the right foods.

Because if you believe it’s still out there, you can keep searching.

The problem is that you’re searching everywhere, out there.

When the real solution is inside.

Inside you.

So, the first step, before going in, is to mourn the loss.

Mourn the loss of the dream of a perfect diet.

It doesn’t exist.