Posts Tagged ‘perspective’

Why You Need To Learn To Motivate Yourself

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2015


Motivate yourself

When my private clients have a consultation with me, and decide to work with me on their weight and eating issues, there’s one thing they all want.

They want and expect me to motivate them.

I smile to myself when I hear this. Because I know that no one can motivate another person. Motivation is an inside job. One that only you can do for yourself.

Someone can hold you accountable for your goals. And they can cheerlead for you. But no one can light the spark of excitement that makes you WANT to do something.

That has to come from you. From knowing what you want. And why you want it. And wanting it more than you want almost anything else. Well, maybe not more than world peace. But most everything else.

And once you know all those things, and are really clear, then you need to find a way to pay attention to what you want. Every day. Yes! Every day you need to place your attention on what you want and how you’ll go about getting it.

You can get support. You can learn new things that will aid your quest of your goal. And there are tons of tools I give my clients.

But like most of life, it’s you, baby. It’s you who needs to get and stay excited.

How do you motivate yourself?

How to Handle the Worst Day of Your Life

Tuesday, September 15th, 2015

Worst Day of Your LifeRecently my daughter called me. I could hear the pain and frustration in her voice, as she told me she had the worst day of her life.

She had a series of mishaps and frustrations, one after the other.

And indeed, in her mind, it was a worst day scenario.

Everything that could have gone wrong, did.

And everything piled up, making a bunch of medium-sized challenges feel like huge mountains.

So here’s what I told her.

All problems pass.

And it’s true. That is my belief.

I knew from experience that in the moment, she may not have been able to see through the cloudiness of her thoughts about her day.

But in the morning, the sky would be clear again. And all would seem more fixable.

Does that mean what felt like problems weren’t problems at all? Not necessarily.

But sometimes there isn’t anything to do but stand back, notice how your mind is multiplying the pain, and if there isn’t some action you need to take right now, or some decision you need to make right now, then the best thing to do is to wait.

Take a break. Give yourself some loving self-care. And know that tomorrow, you will find solutions. And many times, that won’t even be necessary.

Because many things just resolve themselves with the passage of time.

Think of any problem you faced recently.

Remember your pain and angst while you were in the middle of it, trying to figure out a solution. Often, in the heat of the moment, there isn’t an evident solution.

But time is known to give us the gift of perspective. We can wake up and see things through a fresh lens.

And so it goes.

When I think of the old saying, ‘This too shall pass’, boy, is it ever true!