Posts Tagged ‘motivation’

2 Keys to Ending Your Eating Problems

Wednesday, January 13th, 2016

eating problemsWhether you’re trying to overcome your eating problems and lose weight, or stop bingeing, or end your emotional eating, your overall goal is this:

To learn to eat like a naturally slim woman. Not a woman who diets. Not a woman who denies her own hunger just so she can stay on a plan.

But a woman who eats in a really natural way.

Learning how to eat like a naturally slim woman eats sounds really simple.

You eat when you’re hungry. And you stop eating when your body’s had enough.

But in reality, it’s a really complex issue. And doing those two simple things can get derailed faster than you can imagine.

So you need some tools. You need some ways to keep yourself on track.

And there are two big things you need to do on this journey of changing yourself that will help you.

The first is to figure out what you want. Not just what size jeans you want to wear. And not just what number you want to see on the scale in the morning.

But on a deeper level, what do you want your life to look like? What kind of woman do you want to be? And what will your daily life be like?

The second key to making big changes in the world of eating is to understand why you want to make these changes. Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to stop eating emotionally? What are the feelings you’re after? Are you trying to feel more peaceful? More confident? Are you trying to raise your self-esteem?

If you can get clear on exactly what you want, and why you want it, painting a truly vivid picture, then you can use that to motivate yourself to end your eating problems.

To motivate yourself to do what you need to do. When you need to do it. And to never give up.

Why You Need To Learn To Motivate Yourself

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2015

Motivate yourself

When my private clients had a consultation with me, and decided to work with me on their weight and eating issues, there’s one thing they all wanted.

They wanted and expected me to motivate them.

I smiled to myself when I heard this. Because I knew that no one can motivate another person. Motivation is an inside job. One that only you can do for yourself.

Someone can hold you accountable for your goals. And they can cheerlead for you. But no one can light the spark of excitement that makes you WANT to do something.

That has to come from you. From knowing what you want. And why you want it. And wanting it more than you want almost anything else. Well, maybe not more than world peace. But most everything else.

And once you know all those things, and are really clear, then you need to find a way to pay attention to what you want. Every day. Yes! Every day you need to place your attention on what you want and how you’ll go about getting it.

You can get support. You can learn new things that will aid your quest of your goal. And there are tons of tools I give my clients.

But like most of life, it’s you, baby. It’s you who needs to get and stay excited.

How do you motivate yourself?

Are You There Yet?

Thursday, September 6th, 2012

Are You There Yet?So. Are you there yet?

Have you reached your goal?

Lost your weight?

Changed your life?


Not yet?

Well, what I want to know is, what are you making that mean?

Are you a dropout?

A failure?

A person who doesn’t finish what she starts?

Or maybe there’s another way to look at this.

Maybe you’re just not there yet.

Maybe you’re on the right road, but you haven’t arrived at your destination.

Does that mean you’ve failed?


Not at all.

Does it mean you’re stuck?


It means you’re taking a pause. A moment.

To just be where you are.


Stop fighting.

Stop pushing. And angst-ing. (I made this word up!)

Maybe it’s ok to stop pushing yourself and just accept that your change, your goal, is taking as long as it’s taking.

You’re not there yet.

You’re learning.

Taking things in.

Learning what not to do.

You WILL get there.

As long as you don’t give up on yourself.

Just be where you are without the fight.

See if you can learn from where you are.

When you’re ready, you’ll move again.

But until then, pushing will only get you frustrated.

You’re just not there yet.

That’s all.