Posts Tagged ‘give yourself permission’

Episode 115: Why it’s So Hard to Ask for Help with Your Weight Loss

Tuesday, March 12th, 2019

Episode 115: Why it’s So Hard to Ask for Help with Your Weight Loss

I’ll bet you are pretty independent. And able to take care of many different things.

So, when there’s an area of your life that isn’t going the way you’d like it to go, you are surprised.

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How can you be successful in most of your life, but not in the realm of your eating and your weight?

This is not uncommon. But what separates those who figure out what the problem is and solve their weight issue from those who don’t… is asking for help.

If you think it’s a sign of weakness or a sign that you are too needy, you’re wrong.

Asking for help is one of the smartest things you can do. It will help you get what you want faster and in an easier way.

But so often you may feel shame or just plain discomfort asking someone else to talk to you, give you support, or feedback, or even just sit and listen to you.

These acts require that you be vulnerable with someone. And it’s the act of being vulnerable that allows others to see the real you. You may think that if you revealed your weaknesses to someone else, you’d feel terrible.

In reality, we feel good when we can let it all hang out, with the right person, of course.

Think about an area where you could use some help. Think about your history around asking for help. And now, come into the present moment.

You can do this. Ask for what you need. Be brave.


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The Freedom Group – Here’s How You Can Work With Me!

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help.

The Freedom Group is a comprehensive, structured coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program to help you lose weight, change how you eat, and lose the whole problem!

Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members. This is a monthly membership and you can stay as long as you wish. I’d love to work with you in the Freedom Group.


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey. If you enjoy my podcast and want help taking what you hear and putting it into real life action, you’ll love this workbook!

Collection 1 is all about Episodes 1 – 52, and it contains these great features:

  • Easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode.
  • Room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes.
  • A direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries.
  • An action step for each episode, plus links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

Get all the details and purchase your copy today.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE downloadable copy of my Amazon book, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me with questions and suggestions for podcasts at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

Finally, I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot!

Here’s how to rate and review on iTunes: https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 92: To Reach Your Weight Loss Goals, You Need to Play and Rest!

Tuesday, October 3rd, 2017

Episode 92: To Reach Your Weight Loss Goals, You Need to Play and Rest!

Are you all about your ‘to do’ list? Even when it comes to Project You?

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No rest for you! No play for you! Not until you lose those extra pounds. You don’t deserve it! Keep pushing ahead.

How sad. And how demotivating.

We need to step back and see our lives from a distance. You are working on Project You in these three parts: EAT, THINK, and LOVE.

All great! But now, let’s take Project You and put it into the bigger picture of your life: WORK, PLAY, and REST.

Yes, play and rest right now. Before you reach your weight loss goals. To help you get to those goals with more pleasure and peace. Right now.

Work, play and rest. Listen to this coaching session and see how you’re doing in all three areas.


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey.

Collection 1: Episodes 1 – 52 contains these great features: easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode, room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes, a direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries, an action step for each episode, links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

Get all the details and purchase your copy today.


The Freedom Group

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help. The Freedom Group is a coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program. Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Why Does It Have to Take So Long?

Wednesday, September 13th, 2017

Why Does It Take So LongOne of the most common things I hear from my clients is, ‘Why is it so slow?’

Why does weight loss take so long?

Here’s the simple answer:

When you do the work needed for real, lasting weight loss, your results will come in three stages.

First, you’ll learn to think in a totally different way.

You’ll stop going to food to solve a problem.

Unless the problem is hunger.

This is mindset work.

It will give you shifts in how you deal with life.

After the mindset shifts, the next stage you’ll go through will be changes in how you eat.

Once you do the mindset work, the changes in your eating will flow naturally.

And last, after mindset changes…

After eating changes…

comes weight loss.

The extra weight you’ve accumulated now has no reason to stay.

Your thinking has changed.

The cause of your overeating is disconnected.

So your eating changes.

And last, so does your weight.

It’s not really taking too long.

It’s perfectly on time.

Don’t Save It For The Prom

Wednesday, August 23rd, 2017

Red Prom Dress on HangerDid you ever hear the saying, ‘Don’t save it for the prom’?

It means, ‘What are you waiting for?’

What are you saving something for?

Why are you not doing it now?

Many of us wait.

We wait to wear nice clothes until we lose weight.

We won’t speak up in a relationship until we feel better about ourselves.

We won’t put our needs first until we deserve it.

The big question is: Why are we all waiting?

For this big event, the good feeling, the right number on the scale.

And then, we’ll give ourselves what we need.

We’ll stop saving it for the prom.

The prom is now.

The prom is your life.

Feel good today.

Wear clothes you like now.

Ask for what you need daily.

This is it.

Today is all we have for sure.

Stop waiting!

What’s Blocking Your Goals?

Wednesday, July 12th, 2017

My clients, and in fact most people I know, frequently set goals.

For all kinds of things they want to achieve.

Sometimes they achieve their goals.

They make plans, they think the right thoughts, and take the right actions.

But sometimes, they don’t reach their goals.

And often, it’s because their goals are running smack into their belief systems, and there’s a conflict.

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So, what’s the way around this?

Do you work harder, longer or faster?

Do you make more plans, bigger plans or different plans?

Maybe you need to take more actions?

Nope.

It’s none of the above.

First you need to look at your beliefs.

See what they are.

Is there a conflict between what you want and what you believe?

If there is, that work – the work of examining and perhaps changing some of your beliefs, that must come first.

If you want more close relationships, but one of your core beliefs is that you are unlovable, it won’t be easy.

If you want to earn more money but hold the belief that good people don’t care about money, it won’t happen.

Or, if you want a vibrant, healthy body, but you secretly believe that self-care is selfish, you may correctly guess that getting fit will be an uphill battle.

The funny thing is, we all have core beliefs that guide our lives.

We’re just not aware of them.

So, before you set those goals, before you go down the road of glory and achievement, pause.

Spend some time figuring out your deep beliefs.

Look at them and decide whether they serve you.

Deal with them if they don’t.

Then move towards your goals.

Now you’ve got a good shot at reaching them.

Episode 60: Making a Plan for Self-Care — How to Do It

Tuesday, February 21st, 2017

Episode 60: Making a Plan for Self-Care — How to Do It

How well do you take care of yourself? If you’re like many women, you don’t do any self-care until something comes to a crisis point.

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You neglect your body until one day you wake up and don’t know how you got here.

You may neglect your health until some symptom nags at you and won’t go away.

And your emotional health is no different. You need to take care of you. There is no way around it.

Here’s how we’re going to do that. Get my LOVE Menu worksheet right here.

I want to show you how to figure out what you need. And stop resenting that you are in charge of meeting those needs. Then, I’ll help you create a menu of things you can do as needed so you feel good on a pretty regular basis.

Ready? Let’s dive into creating your self-care plan.


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey.

Collection 1: Episodes 1 – 52 contains these great features: easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode, room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes, a direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries, an action step for each episode, links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

Get all the details and purchase your copy today.


The Freedom Group

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help. The Freedom Group is a coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program. Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Look at the Big Picture

Thursday, January 26th, 2017

Look at big pictureMaybe you’re one of my readers because you want to lose weight.

So many women do.

But you know in your heart that food, eating and weight are just pieces of the whole big picture of your life.

And if we stay on the surface, and just focus on the pieces, we’re not really solving the bigger puzzle.

Instead, looking on the surface, you may have found the answer to a question like, ‘How do I not raid the refrigerator this weekend when I visit my mother?’

But you didn’t find the answer to the Big Question, which is, ‘How do I lose this extra weight once and for all AND lose the whole problem?’

You don’t want a quick fix.

You want a real, lasting solution.

Who wants to be dealing with the same problem over and over again?

So many of us tend to look at solving the weight loss puzzle as a series of separate, unrelated situations:

  • If only I could learn how to not gain weight over the Christmas break.
  • How can I entertain for work this week and still be true to my eating plan?
  • I need to learn to stop snacking when my kids are moody after school today, when I’m not really hungry.

While each of these situations occurs frequently for many of my clients, it’s not each individual situation that’s our stumbling block.

Our stumbling blocks are the thoughts and patterns that keep showing up and ruling our lives.

And it’s our reactions to these repetitive habits that allow us to take that first unneeded bite, and not stop until the food is gone.

Stop reacting.

Step back from your life.

What seems to come up over and over again for you that derails your best efforts to lose weight?

Well, once you have identified the patterns, start creating some strategies.

Make your own rules for yourself.

You’re in charge.

You are not at the mercy of the world.

Things don’t just happen to you.

Just step back and think.

Put away the magnifying glass and look at the big picture.

Plan.

Strategize.

Prepare for what you know will show up.

Create personalized rules for yourself.

And get back in charge.

Episode 50: End Emotional Eating with Extreme Self-LOVE: An Interview with Margie Beiswanger

Tuesday, December 13th, 2016

Episode 50: End Emotional Eating with Extreme Self-LOVE: An Interview with Margie Beiswanger

Did you know that almost all good coaches have their own coach? I love being coached in all different areas. It’s a way for me to stretch myself to become the best version of me.

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Self-care, which I’ve started calling self-love is one big way to take care of yourself. To dare yourself to really figure out what you need, and find a way to give it to yourself.

Because that’s what most of us who eat emotionally are trying to do. We’re not trying to sabotage our hard work. We’re just trying to survive and feel better and do our best.

However, that extra eating isn’t working.

That’s why I invited one of my own coaches, Margie Beiswanger, to talk to me and you about how she makes self-LOVE a regular part of her life.

I thought you’d like to hear from a real live woman, who shares many of the challenges you have, and learn how she does it.

I mean, how she really does it.

For several years, as I’ve been coached by Margie on growing my coaching business, somehow we’ve always managed to come around to whether or not I was taking care of me. And many times I wasn’t.

So listen as Margie and I talk about why self-LOVE for yourself is important, and why you might feel just a little guilty doing it, and how to get over that guilt. Now.

Join me.

Margie BeiswangerMargie Beiswanger of Transform Your Brilliance delights in showing experienced coaches, consultants, holistic healers, change agents, and other transformative entrepreneurs how to translate their unique gifts and expertise into signature programs and products so that they can reach more of their ideal clients, leverage their time, expand their business, and earn a good living. She is passionate about showing solopreneurs how their brilliance can shine even brighter!

Get Margie’s gift, Create a Brilliant Vision for Your Life and Business here.

 


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Join my free Facebook group where we will discuss and learn the concepts taught on my podcasts on a deeper level. Join the group here.


The Freedom Group – Here’s How You Can Work With Me!

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help.

The Freedom Group is a comprehensive, structured coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program to help you lose weight, change how you eat, and lose the whole problem!

Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members. This is a monthly membership and you can stay as long as you wish. I’d love to work with you in the Freedom Group.


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey. If you enjoy my podcast and want help taking what you hear and putting it into real life action, you’ll love this workbook!

Collection 1 is all about Episodes 1 – 52, and it contains these great features:

  • Easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode.
  • Room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes.
  • A direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries.
  • An action step for each episode, plus links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

Get all the details and purchase your copy today.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE downloadable copy of my Amazon book, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me with questions and suggestions for podcasts at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

Finally, I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot!

Here’s how to rate and review on iTunes: https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 48: Tough Love: You Are Not Your Weight!

Tuesday, November 29th, 2016

Episode 48: Tough Love: You Are Not Your Weight!

Join me today for a tough love session.

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I want you to know how small your weight is in the big picture of you. Of who you really are.

I know how much you worry about the number on the scale. And I know how you think you’ll be happy someday… when the scale tells you it’s okay.

Enough!

I will show you how to think about your weight and be happy right now. If you learn how to be happy no matter what your weight is right now, then your weight loss journey will be so much easier.

And here’s the thing:

There are so many more important and interesting things about you… much more compelling than what you weigh.

Join me and allow yourself to see things in a different way. Together we can do this.


Weight Loss Made Real Free Facebook Group

Join my free Facebook group where we will discuss and learn the concepts taught on my podcasts on a deeper level. Join the group here.


The Freedom Group – Here’s How You Can Work With Me!

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help.

The Freedom Group is a comprehensive, structured coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program to help you lose weight, change how you eat, and lose the whole problem!

Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members. This is a monthly membership and you can stay as long as you wish. I’d love to work with you in the Freedom Group.


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey. If you enjoy my podcast and want help taking what you hear and putting it into real life action, you’ll love this workbook!

Collection 1 is all about Episodes 1 – 52, and it contains these great features:

  • Easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode.
  • Room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes.
  • A direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries.
  • An action step for each episode, plus links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

Get all the details and purchase your copy today.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE downloadable copy of my Amazon book, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me with questions and suggestions for podcasts at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

Finally, I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot!

Here’s how to rate and review on iTunes: https://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Hold the Butter, Please!

Thursday, August 25th, 2016

Hold the Butter, Please!I have a client who is lucky enough to be married to a wonderful guy who cooks.

Frequently he has dinner waiting for her after a long workday.

And yet.

Sometimes he does things related to dinner that annoy her.

Like butter the veggies.

Or put salad dressing on the salad.

So, what’s the big deal, you may be asking?

She doesn’t want butter.

She wants to put on her own salad dressing.

But isn’t she lucky to have this great partner who cooks for her? Why can’t she just go with the flow and eat whatever he cooks?

Well, here’s why she shouldn’t go with the flow, even though she is a lucky lady.

She gets to decide what she eats, and what she doesn’t eat.

She is learning to take charge of her life. Of her choices. Of her habits, and consequently, of her eating.

Why is it that so many of us have difficulty asking for what we need without feeling ungrateful, or finicky or overly fussy?

What happens is that we’re worried about hurting someone’s feelings. We want them to be happy, and especially be happy with us, and we try to control how they feel.

The problem with this is that it isn’t really possible to have any control over how someone else feels.

As the mother of two young women, I know this firsthand.

And I’m sure you do too.

But we all need to be able to speak up and get what we need. How can we do this without walking on eggshells all the time and obsessing and rehearsing all the potential outcomes before we speak?

We are walking a fine line between being authentic and honoring ourselves and trying to control another person’s reaction to us.

It’s ok to be nice when we’re asking for what we need.

So much more pleasant than dealing with a steamroller.

But we are not less than.

Our needs count.

Going with the flow all the time teaches us to bury our needs in order to keep the peace.

And then there’s anything BUT peace on the inside.

When you get your needs met, it allows you to feel good, grateful and satisfied.

So you will act generous, and giving and more pleasant to be around.

Aren’t you more attractive to be around when you’re getting what you need?

When people do something for you, often the drive to do this ‘thing’ comes from within them. Doing something nice for you makes them feel good.

So, in this whole cycle of all of us getting our needs met, the next time your significant other prepares a lovely meal for you, it’s really okay to say, ‘Honey, hold the butter.’