What’s the difference? Well, when you want to be the best, you push yourself. You compare yourself to what others are doing. You decide where you fit in on the curve. And you take actions based on your position. (Sometimes you take NO actions based on your position!) You also judge your worth based on …
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Why Does It Have to Take So Long?
One of the most common things I hear from my clients is, ‘Why is it so slow?’ Why does weight loss take so long? Here’s the simple answer: When you do the work needed for real, lasting weight loss, your results will come in three stages. First, you’ll learn to think in a totally different …
Don’t Save It For The Prom
Did you ever hear the saying, ‘Don’t save it for the prom’? It means, ‘What are you waiting for?’ What are you saving something for? Why are you not doing it now? Many of us wait. We wait to wear nice clothes until we lose weight. We won’t speak up in a relationship until we …
Losing Weight, Gaining Time
How much time do you spend thinking about what you eat? And about what you didn’t eat? How about what you want to eat? And what you wish you hadn’t? What about your body? Wish it were thinner, firmer, smaller? And let’s not forget the guilt. How much time do you spend on guilt and …
What’s Blocking Your Goals?
My clients, and in fact most people I know, frequently set goals. For all kinds of things they want to achieve. Sometimes they achieve their goals. They make plans, they think the right thoughts, and take the right actions. But sometimes, they don’t reach their goals. And often, it’s because their goals are running smack …
Take Off The Gloves
Are you guilty of beating yourself up? For things you do? For things you wish you had done? How about for how you feel? Or for how you look? Or famously, for what you weigh? Am I leaving anything out? At one point or another, we’ve probably all succumbed to self-beating. It’s a learned reaction. Instead …
How To Feel Cherished
Most of what we all want in life is to feel a certain way. To feel loved. Cherished. Valued. And we sometimes go to great lengths to get these feelings from the people in our lives. The truth is no one can make us feel anything. Good or bad. It’s an inside job. No matter …
It’s Not in There
Do you open your fridge every time you pass it? Do you ever wonder what you’re looking for? Are you looking for happiness? For relief? For a nap? It’s not in there. Are you looking for love? For a friend? For comfort? It’s not there. Are you looking for a better job? Smaller bills? A bigger …
Loving Yourself Changes Everything
Loving yourself feels better than loathing yourself. We’ve all heard these words. So, what else is new? The question is, what does self-love look like in your daily life? Here are some examples of self-love from my own life and the lives of my friends and clients. When you love yourself, you listen to and …
