Do You Compare Yourself to Everyone Around You?

compare yourselfWhen you want to lose weight, one of the very first things you should do is take an honest peek at what went wrong in the past.

You know, all those past efforts at weight loss.

All those times it hasn’t worked.

And one of the things you might want to take a look at, as one of the possible reasons for your past failures, is that you may spend too much time comparing yourself to others.

Let’s face it.

We all compare ourselves to someone.

Some of us do it on a very regular basis.

And others do it as a once in a while check-in.

While it’s a natural thing, I want you to know that it isn’t necessarily the most helpful thing you can do for yourself.

Here’s why.

We all look around us to see how we measure up from time to time.

This is a way of looking outside for validation, when ideally, we should be looking inside.

We may do this because we don’t totally trust ourselves.

We think others know better.

Facebook is a perfect example.

We look around at how others eat.

With people posting their latest diet and actual pictures of what they’re cooking, it’s hard not to!

We look at how much our friends weigh.

So many people are posting before and after pictures of their weight loss efforts.

Of course, we look at everyone’s photos: How do they look? How old are they? Do they look their age? How do they dress?

The comparisons become endless.

We begin to judge ourselves not by how we feel, but by how we feel in comparison to how others appear to feel.

Of course we don’t really know how they feel, how they are doing.

We only know what they reveal on the outside.

A vehicle like Facebook, which is designed to help us connect, can easily turn into something that keeps us separate.

Because if we are comparing, most of us come out lacking.

And if we’re feeling not quite as good as the rest of the world out there, then we don’t want to connect.

We shrink.

And we doubt ourselves even more.

We feel less connected to the world, because we feel worse about ourselves.

So here’s the takeaway:

Our goal, whether trying to lose weight or just live a happy life, is to simply be the best version of ourselves that we can be.

There is no competition.

Except for our personal best.

As we go through life, we meet all kinds of people.

I can guarantee that there will always be someone younger, smarter, thinner and prettier than you.

And that’s okay.

Because as people, we are supposed to be different.

Our goal is not to be better than someone else.

Just to be our best.

So if you are looking around and constantly comparing yourself, put yourself on pause and ask whether this habit is helpful or harmful.

I’m giving you a worksheet today to help you figure out how to turn your compare and despair habit into something that feels much better.

What are some of your comparison habits? How are they working for you?

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