Many of the inquiries I get from women who want to lose weight ask this question: “What’s the first step I should take to lose weight? I’ve tried so many times before… I don’t know where to start!”
And this common question has led me to think: What do most people do when they make that big decision to lose weight?
I’m sure you know your own routine.
You begin to search for the latest, best diet.
You start planning your food.
Maybe you join a gym or hire a trainer.
And of course, you grit your teeth, clench your fists, and make a truly determined promise that this time will be different.
This time you won’t mess up.
You won’t fall off the wagon.
And you commit to staying away from your favorite treat.
As most everyone on the planet knows, these tactics don’t work.
At least not for long.
Yet we keep doing the same things over and over in the desperate hope that this time it will go well.
Making a plan to lose weight is good.
I’m a firm believer and supporter of making a plan and having a backup plan or two or even three.
But when we haven’t done anything about the shame and self-hatred we carry about our past failures, we are doomed to slip back into our old habits.
Our new promises won’t mean a thing.
Trying to lose weight without releasing your pain about past efforts is like trying to climb a mountain and thinking constantly about the last time you had to turn around and go home.
No surprise that it won’t be long before you fail again.
So the big question is: what is the absolute first step you can take toward weight loss that truly works?
Wipe the slate clean.
Forgive yourself for past failures.
Stop obsessing about why you couldn’t succeed in the past.
Stop focusing on all the problems you ran into and couldn’t solve.
And definitely stop telling yourself that something is wrong with you.
Why do you NEED to do this?
Because going into any endeavor with bad feelings about the outcome will program your brain.
And then as soon as you stumble, (and you will definitely stumble) you will give up.
And giving up is your crash and burn.
It’s the guarantee that you’ll never lose this weight.
How do you do this? How do you get that truly fresh start?
Start catching yourself saying, ‘This will never work.’ ‘I’ll never be able to do this.’ ‘Why should I even bother trying?’
These are your signals that you’re slipping into that old habit of letting your past create your future.
Take the first step and erase your old slate.
I don’t care how many times you’ve failed when you tried to lose weight.
Starting clean and fresh is the only thing that will work.