One of the key components of my Real Weight Loss for Real Women program that I use with my private clients is showing them how to manage their mind.
Most of us walk around and suddenly become aware that our mood has changed. We feel angry, or sad or worried and we’re not clear why we started feeling this way.
Yet whether we are aware of it or not, we are the creators of our moods.
Things don’t happen that put us in a cranky mood.
It’s always our thoughts that determine what kind of mood we are in.
And so when I say we need to manage our mind, what I really mean is manage our thoughts. Because our thoughts are the big daddies of all that we create in our lives.
Our thoughts create our feelings. Our feelings lead us to take certain actions based on those feelings. And then those actions eventually or immediately give us certain results.
So if you don’t like the life you are living right now, (your results) I’d suggest you work backwards and start to look at what created your results.
How do you go from thinking that life just happens, to becoming a major life manager?
You begin by eavesdropping on your mind.
This brilliant phrase was borrowed from an equally brilliant client of mine.
Here’s how it works:
- You are going along in your day, and you suddenly notice that your mood has dropped.
- You name your mood. Identify what feeling you are feeling.
- Then you begin to look backwards and ‘eavesdrop on your mind’. You look at what you were thinking just before your mood switched from light and easy to heavy and dark.
- When you’ve identified your thought from sifting through those inner files, you have a decision to make. Do you want to keep this thought? Are you happy with your actions and results from the feeling it creates?
- If not, you can change it, you can just dismiss it, noting that it’s ‘just your thoughts’ or you can just observe it for a while, noticing how it affects you.
When you get good at this, you can climb up this thought ladder, hang out, and eavesdrop all the time.
Why would you do that?
To decide how you want to feel.
How you want to act.
And what you want your life to look like.
Pretty big stuff, huh?
All from eavesdropping on those inner thoughts.