If you’re anything like my clients, you probably think you’re too fat. You think you need to lose weight.
Wow, that sounds harsh, even as I type these words.
But the truth is that in our country, at any given time, almost half the adult female population wants to lose weight.
That’s hard to imagine. So many of us are not happy with how we look, how we feel, how we are in this world.
And we think we need to be thin.
Well, being thin is not a good goal. It has nothing to do with your body, your shape and who you were meant to be in the world.
Most of us aren’t physically capable of being ‘thin’. But we hold up pictures of very skinny models as an image of what we aspire to.
Sounds like a recipe for failure. And not only failure.
Sounds like a recipe for unhappiness.
Because if we don’t take into account who we are, how our genetics play out in our lives, and what we are physically capable of, that image of ‘thin’ will always be like the carrot on the stick in front of the horse.
We never get there.
So, what do we do?
Well, if you think you have extra weight on your body that’s slowing you down, that’s increasing your risk of weight-related disease, and that’s messing with your self-image, it’s time to do something about it.
But know that your self-image can be good regardless of what the number on the scale says. It’s all about how much you love yourself. And the more you love yourself, the better you’re feeding yourself, and taking care of yourself.
Part of the quest for thin comes from comparing ourselves to others. And very likely, comparing ourselves to media images and cultural icons (think: movie star!)
This comparison habit brings us one thing, and it’s not ‘thin’… it’s pain.
The only person we should be comparing ourselves to is us. And even that is dicey. Because comparing yourself to you of ten years ago is fruitless. You’re not the same person you were, and your body is not usually capable of what it was ten years ago.
The key is to think ‘what’s my personal best?’
What’s the right weight for my body, this body, this frame, and these genetics?
What weight will make me healthier, and give me more energy, and allow me to move around easier?
It’s not ‘thin’.
Thin is a place you never get to.
Do yourself a favor.
Be healthier. Eat from hunger. Eat good stuff.
Make those your goals.