Girlfriends are the best. They are your tribe. You can go to them with problems and get support. You can go to them with questions and get answers. And you can go to them with joy or pain, and get love.
It’s a beautiful thing.
But what happens when your girlfriends aren’t able to be there for you? When your problem is something maybe they can’t relate to? Or it’s hard for them to be objective?
Enter ‘The community’.
These days you can create your own community even if it doesn’t exist in your everyday life. Through the magic of the internet, you can find friendship, support and camaraderie. Women who are going through the same challenges as you and know exactly what to say.
This is available to all of us. We can find support groups of every type by doing a Google search.
But here’s the thing.
Sometimes when we are confused about what to do, or looking for an answer, we retreat. Have you ever shut out everyone around you while you try to figure something out?
I know I have.
And when I do this it’s become my signal to do what feels counterintuitive. It’s my signal to reach out to my friends, my fellow coaches, my sister, and my family. Although I feel like curling up in a ball with a bag of chips, I know better.
I know that connection and community will give me what I need. And sometimes it’s not about getting my problem solved. Sometimes it’s enough to have people to just talk to. Who will listen and not judge.
Look around you and make sure you’ve got your tribe in place. And remember that by being a part of a community, you are giving someone else a very valuable part of you at the same time you are seeking relief from them.