Are you guilty of beating yourself up?
For things you do?
For things you wish you had done?
How about for how you feel?
Or for how you look?
Or famously, for what you weigh?
Am I leaving anything out?
At one point or another, we’ve probably all succumbed to self-beating. It’s a learned reaction.
Instead of feeling compassion and seeing what we might need to feel better, we whip ourselves with our words or our thoughts.
And we add insult to injury.
Maybe we think that if we don’t put on boxing gloves and whip ourselves into shape, we’ll be worse.
Make more mistakes.
Gain more weight.
Here’s how the cycle goes.
We think something that makes us feel crappy.
Then we make it worse with how we talk to ourselves.
And then, in a desperate attempt to feel better somehow, we partake in a shadow comfort.
A shadow comfort gives us immediate gratification, but hurts us in the long run.
So if we overeat or overspend or overdrink to relieve the painful beating in our head, we’ll pay for it when we’re done.
And then the voice continues.
On and on and on.
There’s only one way out of this mess.
Stop talking to yourself in a way that you’d NEVER talk to anyone else.
Take off the boxing gloves.
You deserve better.
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