Posts Tagged ‘you are in charge’

Episode 64: How to Stop Making the Same Mistakes

Tuesday, March 21st, 2017

Episode 64: How to Stop Making the Same Mistakes

Do you keep making the same eating mistakes? Over and over again?

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You know how bad it feels. You see what you’re doing. You see it happening. It’s almost like watching a movie, starring you.

And you feel helpless to step in and make a change.

Here’s how to do it. Here is the process you’ll take once you understand how change unfolds.

From unaware.

To aware but without responsibility.

From taking responsibility yet still doing what you don’t want to be doing.

And then to, voila, change!

When you see things differently, you will act differently.

Click here for a copy of the poem I love that so beautifully illustrates this concept.

Which chapter do you see yourself in? Does it help to know what’s next?

Let me know how you do.

Talk with Cookie

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 62: Are You Having a Bad Day? Listen to This Before You Eat!

Tuesday, March 7th, 2017

Episode 62: Are You Having a Bad Day? Listen to This Before You Eat!

Are you having a bad day? The reason I ask is that with my clients, so many overeating episodes begin with a ‘bad day’.

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So, what makes a bad day? Does it have anything to do with you? And do you have any control over how it goes down?

Yes. Yes. And yes.

You have a lot to do with how your day goes. And how you feel at the end of a day.

It is so connected to how you think about your day. If you’ve been listening to me for a while, I’ll bet this isn’t a surprise.

Our day is what we make it. So, pull up your cozy chair and listen as I coach you on how to have fewer bad days. And what to do when you truly have a bad one.

Talk with Cookie

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 55: How to Eat at a Buffet When You’re Trying to Lose Weight

Tuesday, January 17th, 2017

Episode 55: How to Eat at a Buffet When You’re Trying to Lose Weight

Hi there! Do you ever eat in a restaurant?

Of course, you do! These days we all eat out more than ever before. And one of the most fearful eating experiences when eating out is dealing with a buffet.

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THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

You know, those restaurants where there are long, long tables of food and all of it looks and smells delicious.

You know that in the past, the buffet signaled the end of your self-control and the beginning of regret and shame.

But there’s a new way to look at an eating event like a buffet. Or any restaurant meal. Or dinner at a friend’s house where you have no choice about what is served.

In this coaching session, we are going to talk about a new way to not only eat at a buffet, but a new way to think about buffets.

With this new mindset, you will be in charge of yourself and your eating no matter what’s in front of you.

So get cozy and grab a notebook, and get ready to be coached.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 50: End Emotional Eating with Extreme Self-LOVE: An Interview with Margie Beiswanger

Tuesday, December 13th, 2016

Episode 50: End Emotional Eating with Extreme Self-LOVE: An Interview with Margie Beiswanger

Did you know that almost all good coaches have their own coach? I love being coached in all different areas. It’s a way for me to stretch myself to become the best version of me.

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Self-care, which I’ve started calling self-love is one big way to take care of yourself. To dare yourself to really figure out what you need, and find a way to give it to yourself.

Because that’s what most of us who eat emotionally are trying to do. We’re not trying to sabotage our hard work. We’re just trying to survive and feel better and do our best.

However, that extra eating isn’t working.

That’s why I invited one of my own coaches, Margie Beiswanger, to talk to me and you about how she makes self-LOVE a regular part of her life.

I thought you’d like to hear from a real live woman, who shares many of the challenges you have, and learn how she does it.

I mean, how she really does it.

For several years, as I’ve been coached by Margie on growing my coaching business, somehow we’ve always managed to come around to whether or not I was taking care of me. And many times I wasn’t.

So listen as Margie and I talk about why self-LOVE for yourself is important, and why you might feel just a little guilty doing it, and how to get over that guilt. Now.

Join me.

Margie BeiswangerMargie Beiswanger of Transform Your Brilliance delights in showing experienced coaches, consultants, holistic healers, change agents, and other transformative entrepreneurs how to translate their unique gifts and expertise into signature programs and products so that they can reach more of their ideal clients, leverage their time, expand their business, and earn a good living. She is passionate about showing solopreneurs how their brilliance can shine even brighter!

Get Margie’s gift, Create a Brilliant Vision for Your Life and Business here.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 49: How to Say ‘No Thanks’ to Food When You’re Not Hungry

Tuesday, December 6th, 2016

Episode 49: How to Say ‘No Thanks’ to Food When You’re Not Hungry

How many times have you eaten without being hungry?

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If you’re like my clients, and me, I’ll bet it’s been many times. Maybe it’s even a regular part of how you live.

If the food looks good or smells good, you might have a lot of trouble saying no.

In this coaching session, I’m going to teach you and help you be able to say ‘no’ when you aren’t hungry, which is the earmark of a natural eater.

Here’s what we’ll cover:

  • Why you sometimes need to be able to say no to eating.
  • What stops you now from saying no?
  • Why is it so hard?
  • What do you tell yourself when others are eating and you’re not hungry? And what might you do and say instead?
  • How to get yourself, without a struggle, to say no to food you don’t need, even if it’s tempting.
  • Why you need to connect with your very compelling ‘why’ to be able to say no when it’s appropriate.’
  • How the 5 steps to dismissing an urge to binge can help you get rid of the habit of eating when you’re not hungry.’
  • And, how to practice this and make saying no a new, sustainable habit.

Join me in this useful and enlightening coaching session. You can do this!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 47 How to Divide Your Day to Manage Your Weight!

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2016

Episode 47: How to Divide Your Day to Manage Your Weight!

Do you ever feel like your day is running amok from the moment you wake up until the moment you crash on your pillow at night?

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So many women just like you go, go, go all day long and feel like they have no control over their day. It stands to reason that if you think you have no control over your day, then chances of sticking to your eating plan are slim to none.

In order to be able to think and take a breath between activities and obligations and even remember what you’re trying to do, it helps to divide your day into sections and let yourself flow from one to the next.

And the key is intentionality.

Some days throw the unexpected at us. All day. But most days, even if they are hectic, have a rhythm to them.

Here’s what you’ll learn today about managing your day so you can stay focused on your eating goals:

  • Ease into your day with a morning routine, including deciding how you want your morning to go. And who you want to be as your day moves ahead.
  • Once you get to work, whatever your definition of work is, again, check in and decide what you want to happen and how you’d like to respond to things.
  • Do you consciously think about what’s coming up on the calendar? You should. Not in dread, but in the spirit of being in charge.
  • When you get home in the evening, again, build in a transition period to ease into your down time. Even if you have a lot more you’d like to accomplish.
  • How do you want to feel when you go to sleep? Do you know how to accomplish that feeling?

I am going to teach you how to mentally break your day in sections, and guide you to consciously choose how you want each part to go. And how you want to show up in each of those parts.

I’ll see you in the session!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 36 Do You Really Need to Cook to Eat Well and Lose Weight?

Tuesday, September 6th, 2016

Episode 36: Do You Really Need to Cook to Eat Well and Lose Weight?

Both sides of a good question.

Are you a gourmet cook? Me neither!

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Sometimes I’m a takeout queen, and other times I’m prepping food for a healthy week.

It’s really good to know where you stand in the cooking question debate: to cook or not to cook? That is the question.

Here’s what we’ll cover in this coaching session that you need to know and think about:

  • How the way you choose to feed yourself determines the ease or difficulty of your weight loss.
  • Why you might choose to cook in order to eat better.
  • On the other hand, why eating out might be stressful… or, it might actually make feeding yourself much easier.
  • Why does it feel safer regarding food choices to eat at home?
  • How to look at your food sensitivities and allergies so you aren’t feeling deprived.
  • What if cooking just isn’t your thing?
  • What are some options to restaurants, if you don’t want to cook?
  • How to feel in charge of what and how you eat no matter what method you choose to get food.
  • How do you make an eating plan that works?
  • Why it’s important to actually make a decision about cooking or not cooking.

Let me help you face the facts and make a choice, so you have no guilt and you always know where your next meal is coming from.

Join me for this coaching session.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 32 How to Get Past Your Greatest Weight Loss Fears

Tuesday, August 9th, 2016

Episode 32: How to Get Past Your Greatest Weight Loss Fears

It’s inevitable. Just like clockwork. It always comes up.

All my clients think this. Sometimes it comes up early, in the consultation. Other times it comes up after a couple of coaching sessions, once my clients feel more comfortable with me.

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They ask:

  • Have you ever had a client who just couldn’t do it?
  • Couldn’t lose the extra weight?
  • Couldn’t stop emotionally eating? Or binge eating?

You might ask because you’re afraid.

Afraid of being the exception. Afraid of just not being able to do what it takes. Afraid that there’s something wrong with you. And that you will always, always struggle.

Just because you haven’t yet achieved what you want to achieve doesn’t mean you can’t. But I am talking about this today because I really want you to know that you’re not alone in having these fears.

I want you to face these fears and understand where they come from. Why they feel so real to you. And learn how to bust through these fears and do what you really want to do. Eat well. Stop when you’ve had enough. Create a body you feel good in. And live your life.

Join me as I talk about your most secret fears about your weight and your eating, and how to get rid of them now.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle. You may also email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 31 When it Comes to Weight Loss, Must You Always Keep Your Promises?

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2016

Episode 31: When it Comes to Weight Loss, Must You Always Keep Your Promises?

How to Know When to Keep Your Promise to Yourself and When to Negotiate a New One

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You have a goal. Check!

You have a great reason for losing weight. Your big ‘why’. Check!

And you create a plan. Check!

All systems ready to go.

But wait! As you start your project of working on your mind and body, certain situations come up. Situations that cause you to want to change plans and not keep your promises to yourself.

What do you do? Do you change plans or keep your word, no matter what?

Here’s how to look at this common condition:

  • When you make plans, why do things always come up that cause you to second-guess yourself?
  • Do you have a flexible plan? Or stay firm no matter what?
  • What’s the danger of not keeping your promises to yourself?
  • Does it sound like a whole debate team in your head when you try to figure out what to do?
  • Is the road narrow all the time? Or can you widen the road and still be on it?
  • What if you think you’ll never get the opportunity to eat this food again? Ever?
  • Should you bend your own rules when the desire to eat comes from an emotion?

Join me as I coach you on promises. Promises you make to yourself to help you change your eating. When to keep them and when to break them.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle. You may also email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

You Are Not Deprived

Thursday, July 28th, 2016

deprivedSo many of us fear deprivation.

And one of the areas that we fear this most in is eating.

Although we all want to live in fit and healthy bodies, as soon as we begin to create our new reality, feelings of deprivation creep in.

Uh oh.

I can’t do whatever I want.

This isn’t fair!

I can’t eat whatever I want.

I can’t live like this!

I’m so deprived!

Guess what?

You are not deprived.

When you decide that you want something and go after it, usually it means that you’ll be taking some actions that are different than what you are currently doing.

So, if your goal is a slim, fit body and lifestyle, chances are you’ll be eating and moving differently than you are right now.

But, when you make a decision to do anything…

You are the boss.

You are the creator.

You are choosing what you do, for you, and for the goals you want most.

Deprivation comes when you can’t do or have something you really want.

So, you can do whatever you want.

You can eat whatever you want.

You are in charge.

Always.

When you choose to make changes, you are never deprived.

You are choosing a different reality.

A reality more aligned with what you really want.

So stop telling yourself you’re deprived.

It’s a lie that keeps you stuck where you are.

You are making a choice to take care of yourself in a different way.

Different.

Not deprived.