Posts Tagged ‘weight loss journey’

Episode 66: Why Taking a Pause in Your Weight Loss is Good, But Why It’s Not Good to Stop

Tuesday, April 4th, 2017

Episode 66: Why Taking a Pause in Your Weight Loss is Good, But Why It’s Not Good to Stop

Have you ever made a plan to eat differently, and then failed? Failure in my eyes may be different from how you see failure in yourself.

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To me, making a mistake is not a failure. But making a mistake and falling down and not getting back up is the true definition of failure.

What I’d like to coach you about today is learning how to create a pause instead of a stop.

A pause where you evaluate what’s going on and what you might need to adjust to move on.

And moving on is definitely part of the picture.

I think one of the most common mistakes my clients make is falling down and staying down.

Do you do this? It sure takes a big toll on you and how you see yourself. And it doesn’t have to be this way.

Join me in this coaching session where we talk about the different ways of handling a slip, and how to learn from it vs. just stop.

Talk with Cookie

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 64: How to Stop Making the Same Mistakes

Tuesday, March 21st, 2017

Episode 64: How to Stop Making the Same Mistakes

Do you keep making the same eating mistakes? Over and over again?

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You know how bad it feels. You see what you’re doing. You see it happening. It’s almost like watching a movie, starring you.

And you feel helpless to step in and make a change.

Here’s how to do it. Here is the process you’ll take once you understand how change unfolds.

From unaware.

To aware but without responsibility.

From taking responsibility yet still doing what you don’t want to be doing.

And then to, voila, change!

When you see things differently, you will act differently.

Click here for a copy of the poem I love that so beautifully illustrates this concept.

Which chapter do you see yourself in? Does it help to know what’s next?

Let me know how you do.

Talk with Cookie

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Put On Some Socks!

Thursday, October 13th, 2016

I have to admit it; I love Raymond.Put on some socks

I mean, I love ‘Everybody Loves Raymond’.

Every single corny, over-watched, laugh-tracked episode.

With the familiar characters that almost everyone can find some version of in their own families.

It makes me laugh.

So a few nights ago, I watched as Debra and Ray were seeing their priest for some pre-marital counseling.

It seems that Ray was getting a little nervous before taking his vows, and wanted to make sure that Debra really loved him. He worried that in reality, maybe she was a little out of his league.

Well, my favorite line was when Debra yelled at Ray, “I don’t care if you’ve got cold feet. Put on some socks!”

And it made me think: maybe that’s what we all need.

A good old kick in the butt.

A reminder that a little fear isn’t the end.

Do what you need to do and get over it.

So of course I think about my dear clients.

They are brave and smart.

They figuratively climb mountains all the time in their life.

And sometimes they get scared.

But scared doesn’t mean stop.

It means getting help.

It means looking at your thoughts and questioning their validity.

It means tweaking what you are doing.

But it never means, “Stop! Turn around, and go back down that mountain…”

It simply means, “Put on some socks!”

How to Keep Going on Your Weight Loss Journey

Thursday, June 6th, 2013

journeyHow many times have you started on a weight loss program, and as soon as you run into a challenge, just stop and say, ‘I’ll start again Monday’?

Or you’ve been eating when you’re hungry, and stopping when you’re satisfied, and now the holidays are coming. So you conveniently slip off your plan, and tell yourself you’ll start again after the holidays.

It doesn’t matter if it’s Monday, the holidays, the beginning of the next month, before summer, after summer or next New Year’s Eve.

What matters is you are telling yourself you took a break, you took an action that is not the direction you want to go in on your journey, and so now you will just totally stop AND wait a while until the calendar tells you it’s convenient to restart your weight loss journey.

(Now that was a long sentence but I am really passionate about this. So forgive me.)

Well.

I disagree.

Life isn’t perfect.

You aren’t perfect.

And neither am I.

And when we’re learning something new, it’s completely natural and expected to hit a wall, learn from it, get up and keep going.

Hitting a wall doesn’t stop us from reaching our goals.

But hitting a wall and then consulting the calendar about when it might be convenient to reconvene your effort, well that’s what stops us from reaching our goals.

As weight loss expert Brooke Castillo has said, you don’t go shopping, reach a red light and turn around and go home.

You expect the red light, stop until it turns green, and then keep moving forward on your journey.

With our weight loss efforts, when something derails us, too often we stop, turn around and go home.

And then after some time passes, we gingerly poke our heads out, look around and give it another shot.

But what happens when we do this often enough is that we lose our perspective.

We start to think of ourselves as quitters.

And we get demoralized.

We lose our mojo.

We start to believe we can’t do it.

And that is a lie we have all told ourselves.

So here’s what to do:

Get up.

Now.

I don’t care if it’s a Tuesday or a Thursday, or if next Sunday is the vernal equinox.

Get up and start again.

And no more sitting down when you slip.

Errors are part of learning.

And I hope you make a lot of them.

So your learning will be really deep.

Are You There Yet?

Thursday, September 6th, 2012

Are You There Yet?So. Are you there yet?

Have you reached your goal?

Lost your weight?

Changed your life?

No?

Not yet?

Well, what I want to know is, what are you making that mean?

Are you a dropout?

A failure?

A person who doesn’t finish what she starts?

Or maybe there’s another way to look at this.

Maybe you’re just not there yet.

Maybe you’re on the right road, but you haven’t arrived at your destination.

Does that mean you’ve failed?

No.

Not at all.

Does it mean you’re stuck?

No.

It means you’re taking a pause. A moment.

To just be where you are.

Assess.

Stop fighting.

Stop pushing. And angst-ing. (I made this word up!)

Maybe it’s ok to stop pushing yourself and just accept that your change, your goal, is taking as long as it’s taking.

You’re not there yet.

You’re learning.

Taking things in.

Learning what not to do.

You WILL get there.

As long as you don’t give up on yourself.

Just be where you are without the fight.

See if you can learn from where you are.

When you’re ready, you’ll move again.

But until then, pushing will only get you frustrated.

You’re just not there yet.

That’s all.

Why Does It Have To Be So Hard?

Thursday, March 10th, 2011

Hard WorkI’m getting ready to give a local weight loss seminar and I was talking to a friend about it.

I explained that I felt really relaxed, but that as I got closer, I was sure I’d get nervous and anxious about putting it all together.

She shocked me when she said, “Why does it have to be hard?”

I was flustered.

Oh. Right.

Here I was, demonstrating a perfect example of what I see in my clients all the time.

They come to me to begin a coaching program. They bring some baggage with them.

What’s in the baggage?

It’s a combination of excitement and dread.

Yes, dread.

Why the dread?

Because they know this weight loss journey is going to be hard.

How do they know?

Because that has been their experience.

So they’ve accumulated a whole bunch of beliefs about the process of losing weight, all centered around how hard it is.

It doesn’t have to be.

It will be work.

There will be growth.

You need to be willing.

But it doesn’t have to be hard.

Check your beliefs at the door.

Be open to surprising yourself.

Mourn the Loss

Friday, January 1st, 2010

It’s so much easier to believe that the answer to permanent weight loss is out there somewhere.

It’s comforting to think that you just haven’t found it yet.

Haven’t read the right book.

Haven’t heard the right secret.

Haven’t tried the right foods.

Because if you believe it’s still out there, you can keep searching.

The problem is that you’re searching everywhere, out there.

When the real solution is inside.

Inside you.

So, the first step, before going in, is to mourn the loss.

Mourn the loss of the dream of a perfect diet.

It doesn’t exist.