Posts Tagged ‘self-love’

Loving Yourself Changes Everything

Wednesday, May 10th, 2017

Loving YourselfLoving yourself feels better than loathing yourself.

We’ve all heard these words.

So, what else is new?

The question is, what does self-love look like in your daily life?

Here are some examples of self-love from my own life and the lives of my friends and clients.

  1. When you love yourself, you listen to and honor your body. You rest when tired, you eat when hungry.
  2. You spend most of your connection time with people who genuinely care about you  and value you.
  3. You always put fun things in your ‘to do’ list because you always deserve to have fun. You don’t have to earn this.
  4. You give yourself food that is healthy, and also delicious.
  5. You take the time to care for your body in ways that make you look and feel great.
  6. You choose to exercise in some form, because it’s a gift you give to yourself.
  7. You have the same compassion for yourself that you’d have for a beloved friend.
  8. When you don’t do something you’re trying to do, you gently look at the ‘why’ with compassion and curiosity.
  9. When you fail at something you’ve attempted, you simply step back and try another door. No judgments.
  10. When your thoughts take you to a dark place, you question these thoughts, instead of automatically believing them.

How do you love yourself?

Episode 67: Your Weight and Your Relationship

Tuesday, April 11th, 2017

Episode 67: Your Weight and Your Relationship

If you’ve ever been romantically involved with someone, and you struggle with your eating and your weight, this coaching session is for you.

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What effect does your weight have on your relationship? And what effect does your relationship have on your eating and your weight?

The two seem so related, don’t they? You may eat when you fight with your partner, or when you feel angry with them, as if to say: this will show you!

And yet at the end of the day, when you eat too much food, the only one who suffers is you.

It’s time to learn to take care of yourself no matter how your intimate relationships are going.

Take responsibility for eating well no matter what. Learn to take charge of your own happiness, and you’ll find that no matter what your partner does, it shouldn’t and won’t affect your weight.

Does this sound like something you might need to hear? Relationships are SO important. But it all starts with your relationship with yourself.

Join me as we explore the connection between your relationship and your weight.

Talk with Cookie

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 61: Moving Your Body — Excuses or Obstacles?

Tuesday, February 28th, 2017

Episode 61: Moving Your Body — Excuses or Obstacles?

Are you a woman who moves her body? If you are, you probably will enjoy hearing all the good things you get from moving.

If you aren’t, then listen up. I’ll tell you why you should do it. And we’ll then look at what might be holding you back.

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If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if private coaching is the solution to your struggle.

It’s helpful to look at your personal reasons for not moving your body. Are they excuses? Or are they obstacles?

Learn the difference and I’ll help you find a way to make this happen that isn’t painful.

Do you know how to make a plan, without getting lost in the research?

And what about your thinking? You need to clean up that mind of yours so it doesn’t make moving hard, or something that will never happen for you. In other words, it’s all about your mindset.

And finally, how to prepare for challenges that threaten to throw your new habit off track.

Join me if you don’t think of yourself as a person who moves their body and let’s blast through your excuses. Moving can be life changing, if you bust through your excuses.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 60: Making a Plan for Self-Care — How to Do It

Tuesday, February 21st, 2017

Episode 60: Making a Plan for Self-Care — How to Do It

How well do you take care of yourself? If you’re like many women, you don’t do any self-care until something comes to a crisis point.

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If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if private coaching is the solution to your struggle.

You neglect your body until one day you wake up and don’t know how you got here.

You may neglect your health until some symptom nags at you and won’t go away.

And your emotional health is no different. You need to take care of you. There is no way around it.

Here’s how we’re going to do that. Get my LOVE Menu worksheet right here.

I want to show you how to figure out what you need. And stop resenting that you are in charge of meeting those needs. Then, I’ll help you create a menu of things you can do as needed so you feel good on a pretty regular basis.

Ready? Let’s dive into creating your self-care plan.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

I’m Not the Life of the Party!

Thursday, January 12th, 2017

Life of the PartyHaving reached a certain age, after much consideration, therapy and coaching, I have come to recognize certain truths about myself.

When I was younger, I viewed these truths as faults.

Negatives.

Things to definitely work on, as in my goals for the year and New Year’s resolutions.

Now that I am mellowing and tuning into my own wisdom, I realize that these ‘facts about Cookie’ are not only NOT faults, but I have come to look at them as somewhat endearing qualities that I possess.

I can laugh at myself more, much to the distress of my daughters, who tend to be easily embarrassed.

So here’s what I’ve learned and have come to accept and yes, even love about myself:

Ok, so I’m not the life of the party. Any party. No matter what I wear or how I get ready. Never have been and never will be. 

But I know that I’m really comfortable and do well in small groups with intimate conversation.

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I’m a latecomer to technology, social media and all things related to my computer.

But I’ve cobbled together a real business doing what I love, and learning or getting help in my weak spots.

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I’m a certified introvert. I’ll never get up for karaoke, so please don’t challenge me.

But I’m an intense, intuitive listener. I’ve learned to hear between the lines. That trumps my singing ability every day of the week.

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There are certain subjects that make my eyes glaze over and drool come out of the corner of my mouth. In the past, I’d work really hard to get better at these things.

Now I leave them to someone else, someone who comes more naturally to them. And I focus my energy on my own genius subjects. I’m good without being an expert at everything.

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What do I attribute this maturity, this relaxing of standards, and this self-acceptance to?

Age.
Growth.
Work.
And love.

It feels so much better to know who I am.

What it is that makes me special.

So, I’ll never be the life of the party.

I have a feeling I wouldn’t look that good with a lampshade on my head, anyway.

Episode 50: End Emotional Eating with Extreme Self-LOVE: An Interview with Margie Beiswanger

Tuesday, December 13th, 2016

Episode 50: End Emotional Eating with Extreme Self-LOVE: An Interview with Margie Beiswanger

Did you know that almost all good coaches have their own coach? I love being coached in all different areas. It’s a way for me to stretch myself to become the best version of me.

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Self-care, which I’ve started calling self-love is one big way to take care of yourself. To dare yourself to really figure out what you need, and find a way to give it to yourself.

Because that’s what most of us who eat emotionally are trying to do. We’re not trying to sabotage our hard work. We’re just trying to survive and feel better and do our best.

However, that extra eating isn’t working.

That’s why I invited one of my own coaches, Margie Beiswanger, to talk to me and you about how she makes self-LOVE a regular part of her life.

I thought you’d like to hear from a real live woman, who shares many of the challenges you have, and learn how she does it.

I mean, how she really does it.

For several years, as I’ve been coached by Margie on growing my coaching business, somehow we’ve always managed to come around to whether or not I was taking care of me. And many times I wasn’t.

So listen as Margie and I talk about why self-LOVE for yourself is important, and why you might feel just a little guilty doing it, and how to get over that guilt. Now.

Join me.

Margie BeiswangerMargie Beiswanger of Transform Your Brilliance delights in showing experienced coaches, consultants, holistic healers, change agents, and other transformative entrepreneurs how to translate their unique gifts and expertise into signature programs and products so that they can reach more of their ideal clients, leverage their time, expand their business, and earn a good living. She is passionate about showing solopreneurs how their brilliance can shine even brighter!

Get Margie’s gift, Create a Brilliant Vision for Your Life and Business here.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 48: Tough Love: You Are Not Your Weight!

Tuesday, November 29th, 2016

Episode 48: Tough Love: You Are Not Your Weight!

Join me today for a tough love session.

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I want you to know how small your weight is in the big picture of you. Of who you really are.

I know how much you worry about the number on the scale. And I know how you think you’ll be happy someday… when the scale tells you it’s okay.

Enough!

I will show you how to think about your weight and be happy right now. If you learn how to be happy no matter what your weight is right now, then your weight loss journey will be so much easier.

And here’s the thing:

There are so many more important and interesting things about you… much more compelling than what you weigh.

Join me and allow yourself to see things in a different way. Together we can do this.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 19 Weight Loss and Self-Esteem: Your Self-Image and Your Self-Esteem and How They Affect Everything!

Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

Episode 19: Weight Loss and Self-Esteem: Your Self-Image and Your Self-Esteem and How They Affect Everything!

Self-Esteem Podcast 19

We all talk about self-esteem and self-image. We have a vague idea that these concepts play into how we feel about ourselves.

But do we really know what they mean?

Here’s the scoop about how your self-image and your self-esteem affect your eating and your weight.

Here’s what we’ll talk about:

  • If you had a less than perfect childhood, (who didn’t?) how does this impact how you live your life today?
  • Why you think highly of yourself. Or negatively.
  • How to see the connection between your self-image and so many areas of your life.
  • Why it’s simple but not easy to change your view of yourself.
  • How your self-image shows up in how you take care of yourself. Or how you don’t!
  • Did you think self-esteem was fixed? And unchangeable? It’s not, and here’s why.
  • Exactly how to change your view of who you are in the world.
  • How to rewrite your story about yourself and create a new direction for your future.
  • Finally understand why it’s been so hard to reach your goals in all areas.

Once you learn where your self-image and self-esteem come from, you’ll be able to look at yourself in a new way: with compassion and hope. And you’ll be able to stop thinking that things just are the way they are. Change is totally possible!

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 17 Stop Emotional Eating and Lose Weight Through Incredible Self-Care

Tuesday, April 26th, 2016

Episode 17 Stop Emotional Eating and Lose Weight Through Incredible Self-Care

Self-care Podcast 17

Self-care is a term that’s been thrown around since the 80’s. We all give it lip service but when it comes to doing it or even understanding it, that’s where we all fall down.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Listen in as I coach you about what self-care really is, and why you need to make it a part of your life. Here’s what we’ll cover today:

  • Why you treat your family and friends better than yourself.
  • What it really means to feel cared for and why it’s important.
  • How the lack of self-care has a big impact on what you bring to the world… really!
  • Why self-care, when given to you consistently, helps you in so many ways in your day-to-day life.
  • Do you know what’s stopping you from taking care of yourself?
  • Do you have a rescue mentality, waiting for that special someone to take care of you?
  • How to view what you do for yourself as a non-negotiable, AND how to bust through all your excuses about ‘not enough time’.
  • Samples of many ways you can implement self-care in your life.
  • And how to actually get yourself to do these things.

Taking incredible care of yourself can be life-changing. As you listen, grab a notebook and jot down some ways that you can start giving yourself what you really need, so food becomes just food.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 14 You Need to Stop Hating Yourself in Order to Lose Your Extra Weight

Tuesday, April 5th, 2016

Episode 14: You Need to Stop Hating Yourself in Order to Lose Your Extra Weight

Stop Hating Yourself Podcast 14

You want to lose weight. You want to stop your bingeing. And you definitely want to stop eating emotionally.

But wait, before you can do those things, there is one thing you MUST do.

And that is to stop the hating, the bashing and the name calling.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

That’s right! I’m talking to you, about those secret, internal conversations you have with yourself that leave you feeling terrible.

And they make it impossible for you to take constructive steps to change the way you eat.

Are you with me? Here’s our coaching conversation about how to stop hating yourself so you can move on and do what you most desire:

  • How does your self-hate show up? What does it sound like for you?
  • Why do you do it when it feels so bad?
  • What’s the big deal if you talk not-so-nicely to yourself?
  • If you need to feel better so you can do better, how exactly do you do this?
  • What if your negative thoughts about yourself keep on coming?
  • Do you think you’ll feel better AFTER you lose the weight?
  • Why do the hateful thoughts about yourself feel so real?

Changing how you feel about yourself at your current weight, with your current eating habits is something you can do. Definitely. 100%.

Trying to make changes while hating your weight and your body and the way you eat will definitely get in the way. Let me show you how to change this and stop hating yourself, so you can move forward. Peacefully.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!