Posts Tagged ‘react to old patterns’

Episode 65: Did You Just Overeat? How to Compensate Without Punishing Yourself

Tuesday, March 28th, 2017

Episode 65: Did You Just Overeat? How to Compensate Without Punishing Yourself

We all  overeat sometimes, especially on our way toward learning how to eat naturally.

The important thing to look at when you DO overeat is what you do immediately after.

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Do you punish yourself? Do you restrict your eating to ‘make up’ for what you just overate?

You may very well be sabotaging yourself without realizing it!

Restricting your eating following an overeating episode messes with your survival instincts.

It reinforces a habit that is exactly what you want to stop doing!

Listen in and join me in this coaching session as I teach you why it’s so important not to restrict your eating after you’ve overeaten.

If you regularly swing between overeating and then under-eating, this session is for you!

Talk with Cookie

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 64: How to Stop Making the Same Mistakes

Tuesday, March 21st, 2017

Episode 64: How to Stop Making the Same Mistakes

Do you keep making the same eating mistakes? Over and over again?

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You know how bad it feels. You see what you’re doing. You see it happening. It’s almost like watching a movie, starring you.

And you feel helpless to step in and make a change.

Here’s how to do it. Here is the process you’ll take once you understand how change unfolds.

From unaware.

To aware but without responsibility.

From taking responsibility yet still doing what you don’t want to be doing.

And then to, voila, change!

When you see things differently, you will act differently.

Click here for a copy of the poem I love that so beautifully illustrates this concept.

Which chapter do you see yourself in? Does it help to know what’s next?

Let me know how you do.

Talk with Cookie

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Look at the Big Picture

Thursday, January 26th, 2017

Look at big pictureMaybe you’re one of my readers because you want to lose weight.

So many women do.

But you know in your heart that food, eating and weight are just pieces of the whole big picture of your life.

And if we stay on the surface, and just focus on the pieces, we’re not really solving the bigger puzzle.

Instead, looking on the surface, you may have found the answer to a question like, ‘How do I not raid the refrigerator this weekend when I visit my mother?’

But you didn’t find the answer to the Big Question, which is, ‘How do I lose this extra weight once and for all AND lose the whole problem?’

You don’t want a quick fix.

You want a real, lasting solution.

Who wants to be dealing with the same problem over and over again?

So many of us tend to look at solving the weight loss puzzle as a series of separate, unrelated situations:

  • If only I could learn how to not gain weight over the Christmas break.
  • How can I entertain for work this week and still be true to my eating plan?
  • I need to learn to stop snacking when my kids are moody after school today, when I’m not really hungry.

While each of these situations occurs frequently for many of my clients, it’s not each individual situation that’s our stumbling block.

Our stumbling blocks are the thoughts and patterns that keep showing up and ruling our lives.

And it’s our reactions to these repetitive habits that allow us to take that first unneeded bite, and not stop until the food is gone.

Stop reacting.

Step back from your life.

What seems to come up over and over again for you that derails your best efforts to lose weight?

Well, once you have identified the patterns, start creating some strategies.

Make your own rules for yourself.

You’re in charge.

You are not at the mercy of the world.

Things don’t just happen to you.

Just step back and think.

Put away the magnifying glass and look at the big picture.

Plan.

Strategize.

Prepare for what you know will show up.

Create personalized rules for yourself.

And get back in charge.

Episode 56: How to Get Out of an Eating Slump and Never Give Up!

Tuesday, January 24th, 2017

Episode 56: How to Get Out of an Eating Slump and Never Give Up!

The holidays are over! It’s a new year and we’re all recovering from the indulgences of the past month.

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THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I’m getting so much email from listeners and private clients and they all say the same thing: Help! I’m in a slump and can’t get out!

That’s why we’re going to talk about this today in our coaching session.

Here’s what we’ll cover:

  • What is a slump?
  • How does it show up in your life? What does it look like?
  • And, what does it feel like?
  • Why slumps occasionally happen to everyone.
  • And what your three choices are when you’re officially in a slump.
  • Finally, getting out… how to think, feel and act to get yourself out of that low-feeling slump.

Join me as I teach you and coach you on the way to think about the ups and downs of learning to eat differently and take care of yourself.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

What Does Your Extra Weight Look Like?

Thursday, November 24th, 2016

extra weightWhen you’re carrying some extra weight on your body, it’s easy to get used to it. You develop coping mechanisms that allow you to function without being painfully aware of what’s bothering you every minute of the day.

Of course, at certain times you’re more aware of it than usual.

  • Like when you’re shopping for clothes and looking in the dressing room mirror.
  • Or when you’re worried about fitting into an airplane seat without spilling over into your neighbor’s seat.
  • Or when you get winded going up a simple flight of stairs.

But on an everyday basis, if you spend most of your day sitting at a desk, you may not be aware of what you are literally carrying around all the time.

I think it’s good to give yourself a wakeup call. And become sensitive to what it means to have an extra 10 or 30 or 75 pounds on your body.

Look around your house or go to the grocery store and pick out some items that weigh close to the same amount of weight you’d like to lose.

Think of a bag of kitty litter… pick up that 10 or 20 pound bag to see what it feels like.

Look at four sticks of butter, a mere pound. Picture yourself having 40 of those sticks, 10 pounds, stuffed into your pockets all day long.

I’m no wimp but the bags my dog’s food comes in, 25 pounds each, are heavy to lug into my car trunk.

Now, visualize that all day, every day you have extra weight on your body, you are ‘carrying’ something extra with you all the time. Day and night. Up and down the stairs. In all your social interactions. At work.

It’s extra.

You don’t need it.

Physically, things would be easier if you dropped your extra load.

Left it by the curb.

Let go of what was slowing you down and not adding to your life.

Carrying around extra weight all day every day packs a big cost.

Are you willing to keep paying?

This week, I challenge you to look and find some physical equivalent of the weight you’d like to lose.

And put it in front of you.

Carry it around for a period of time.

Become very aware of what that extra weight feels like on your body, and how good it feels to put it down.

Conversely, as you begin to release your body’s extra weight, it helps to look at the physical equivalent of what you’ve lost, to remind yourself of what you are no longer carrying around.

And how much better you feel.

Sometimes we all need a reminder of what we get used to.

We stop seeing it.

We can’t feel it.

Making it physical makes it real again.

And that helps us have the motivation to do something about it.

Stop Running From Discomfort

Thursday, July 14th, 2016

Mother_DaughterXSmall-300x199Recently I found myself in an old familiar setting.

One of my teenage daughters had come home from school in a mood. Let’s just say, it was one of those teenage moods.

I was in the kitchen with her, and suddenly realized that I was mindlessly snacking.

I did a quick check-in with myself.

No hunger.

And I realized that just like that I had slipped into an old pattern… I started to feel uncomfortable and immediately started eating to remedy the discomfort.

Although most of that behavior is gone for me, it still occasionally rears its head.

And it’s good to notice that even after doing lots of work, sometimes you react with old patterns.

So here’s the story:

When you begin to feel uncomfortable, about anything you’re thinking about, notice the feeling coming over you.

Pause.

And then welcome the discomfort.

It’s here to teach you something.

To give you the inside path to your thoughts.

And only after you allow yourself to feel the feeling, can you go inside and work on it. Change it. Or not.

But first you have to feel it.

Then you can figure out what’s going on.

If you eat you will smother the feeling, and lose touch with the thought.

So grab the opportunity.

Stop running from discomfort.

Ep 25 How to Make Eating Choices All Day Long that Lead You to Weight Loss

Tuesday, June 21st, 2016

Episode 25: How to Make Eating Choices All Day Long that Lead You to Weight Loss

Eating Choices Podcast 25

If you’ve ever sat down and listed all the different choices you made in one day, you’d probably be exhausted just thinking about it!

We face so many decisions every day and many of them are about when to eat, what to eat, how much to eat, and how to get ourselves to stop. Oh, and don’t forget all the self-beating about what we’ve just eaten!

This is what I will coach you on today: how to see all the eating choices you make in a day and know exactly how to make those choices.

Here’s what you’ll learn in Episode 25:

  • What you usually do when at a fork in the road, and what you should be doing instead.
  • Why giving in to the cupcake of the moment feels so much easier than passing it up.
  • How to stay awake and not go into autopilot when making food decisions.
  • What you tell yourself about all the little choices you make that could get you in trouble.
  • How to apply The Compounding Effect to eating and weight loss.
  • Why you need to know your ‘big why’ when it comes to making good eating decisions.
  • How to use planning for your benefit, even if you’re truly not a planner.
  • Learn how to stop kidding yourself when the same situations keep coming up, over and over again.
  • Spot your patterns and take charge of them, instead of being led unconsciously by them.

And more.

Your everyday decisions create your reality. Your body. Your weight.

So doesn’t it make sense to shine the light on all those eating choices and learn how to make them in your favor?

Join me for an illuminating coaching session!

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/free-gifts/

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle. You may also email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 12 Your Focus Determines How Well You Do on Any Eating Program

Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016

Episode 12: In the weight loss arena, what are you doing right? Where you put your focus determines how well you do on any eating program

Focus Podcast 12

When I talk to my private clients, they can’t wait to tell me all the things they have done wrong.

All the ways they failed in the past week.

And how they just can’t ‘get it’.

Little do they know that their very focus on what’s not going well is keeping them stuck in the problem, instead of on their way to a solution!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

Join me as I coach you on these subjects:

  • What is focus?
  • Why is it so important?
  • Where do you habitually put your focus, unknowingly?
  • Where does this pattern come from?
  • What should you focus on when you want to change your eating patterns?
  • How do you actually do this?
  • Can you really retrain your focus?
  • How can you practice intentional focus?

When you listen to this coaching session, you’ll realize what you’ve been doing that’s been holding you back, and how to change it with awareness and a concrete plan.

Join me and get off that treadmill of repeating your same old mistakes over and over again.

And be sure to listen in next week when I unveil a new, ongoing coaching group that will be available to you. You’ll be able to take everything you’re learning here in these podcasts to the next level. I can’t wait to share!

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 11 Your Eating Habits: What They Are, How You Get Them, and How to Change Them

Tuesday, March 15th, 2016

Episode 11: Your Eating Habits: What They Are, How You Get Them, and How to Change Them

Eating Habits Podcast 11

Most of us know which eating habits help us, and which ones hurt us and take us further and further away from our goals.

But you may feel powerless in the face of your habits. You may suddenly become aware that you’re gaining weight. Or you’re ordering take-out food every night and there’s not a veggie in sight.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode about all the eating habits you have right now, and all the eating habits you wish you had:

  • Why some of your overeating is unconscious, until you suddenly wake up and see what you’re doing.
  • If you hate your results so much, why are you still doing the habits that give you those end results?
  • Why do you go on autopilot with some things you do when you eat?
  • Is a habit just something you do? And if it is, why can’t you just stop?
  • What is your overeating habit costing you?
  • How do you know which habit to work on first?
  • What is ‘stepladdering’, and how can you use it to help you stop your eating habit?

Take the first step. Listen to this coaching session and be ready to take action. I will tell you exactly what to do to get started.

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Stop Being Such A Baby!

Thursday, July 21st, 2011

Baby having tantrum

When we’re children, we want what we want.

And we want it NOW.

We don’t care about consequences.

We don’t know about the slippery slope of instant gratification.

And we aren’t aware that the word ‘brat’ could sometimes aptly describe us.

But today, as grown-ups, our inner spoiled baby still sometimes rears her cute little head.

When we want to do something that clearly isn’t in our best interests, but we do it anyway.

Or, when we want to overeat because we don’t want the pleasure to stop.

Or, when we figuratively stamp our feet and say, ‘I don’t care!’

The hallmark of a true adult is knowing when to say ‘no’ to ourselves.

Because we know it’s leading us to what we REALLY want.

So listen here, all you cute but mischievous babies:

We’re in charge of you.

And we’re puttin’ our foot down.