Coaches often use future focused tools to help their clients envision how they’ll feel when they reach their life goals. These goals could be career goals, relationship goals, money goals or health and fitness goals.
Just about anything.
These tools focus on your ‘end game’. How will you feel when you reach these goals? Exactly what will your life look like when you get where you want to go?
The theory is if you can identify how you will feel when you lose weight or get out of debt, you can create that feeling right now in your life. And this will make reaching your goal much easier.
I’ve done it myself, and many of my clients do it all the time. It works.
But, in the heat of the moment when you’re facing down an unplanned purchase on an already maxed-out Visa, or a double fudge chocolate cupcake on an already maxed-out full tummy, the vision of your end game is harder to conjure up.
It seems that in the moment, the temptation of the food or the sale feel stronger and more tempting than your vision of your possible future.
So here’s what I do:
Start asking yourself what the consequence will be for you if you buy this, or eat this, and keep doing that for the next five years.
- How will you feel?
- What will you weigh?
- What will your Visa bill look like?
- Will you feel healthy and fit and energetic?
- Will you have saved enough to buy your dream house or start your business?
- Will you have the relationship you want?
In other words, if you keep doing what you are doing now, stop for a moment and really think about the road you are traveling on.
Where will this road lead?
If you don’t make a U-turn, are you okay with where you will end up?
If not, then use that vision of the future you DON’T want to spur you into action: put down that cupcake, put on your gym shoes, stop spending money you don’t really have and get away from that reality show.
Sometimes, knowing what’s ahead of you and what you don’t want can be a stronger motivator than the vision of what you do want.