Posts Tagged ‘feeling overwhelmed’

Food Is Not Your Friend

Wednesday, July 26th, 2017

friendOf course food is not your friend.

You already know that.

You don’t rely on food to comfort you, do you?

You don’t go to food when things aren’t going well, do you?

And you certainly don’t feel most understood when you are in the presence of your favorite food, do you?

Ok, well, some of us may have done these things at one point or another.

But we’ve learned, right?

Food is just food.

But, just because we all know that food is not our friend, I just want to make sure that we also know that FOOD IS NOT THE ENEMY.

Food is just food. Just a substance that can nourish the body. It’s not good, it’s not bad.

Food is neutral.

No need to fear it, to stay away from it, or to give it any power.

It doesn’t really have the power to make you feel good.

And it doesn’t really have the power to make you feel bad.

You can do that all by yourself.

Hmmmm.

Maybe it’s time to find some new friends.

Episode 69: Where Do I Start Making Changes for Weight Loss?

Tuesday, April 25th, 2017

Episode 69: Where Do I Start Making Changes for Weight Loss?

Do you love these coaching sessions but don’t exactly know where to start?

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Here is your answer: You start right here. You start with getting really clear on what your problem is. Define it.

Episode 1: The Difference Between Emotional Eating, Binge Eating and Compulsive Overeating

You’d be amazed at how many clients over-exaggerate and generalize their problems. I want the facts, just the facts.

Once you’ve done that, I want you to get crystal clear on what’s gone wrong for you in the past. If you’re not sure, you’ll be doomed to repeating your mistakes over and over again. And we both know how useful that is!

Episode 2: Clearing Your Path to Weight Loss Success!

Click here to get a downloadable copy of my book, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, so you can begin to figure this out. It’s free for my listeners.

And then, create your project. Project YOU.

With all the moving parts and plans and goals and reasons why you’re doing this. Get it all out and organized and begin looking at it in a different way.

Episode 5: Working on Project YOU: Creating Your Weight Loss Blueprint

You can certainly do this. I’m certain. And this podcast will help you take the first steps.

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Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Put On Some Socks!

Thursday, October 13th, 2016

I have to admit it; I love Raymond.Put on some socks

I mean, I love ‘Everybody Loves Raymond’.

Every single corny, over-watched, laugh-tracked episode.

With the familiar characters that almost everyone can find some version of in their own families.

It makes me laugh.

So a few nights ago, I watched as Debra and Ray were seeing their priest for some pre-marital counseling.

It seems that Ray was getting a little nervous before taking his vows, and wanted to make sure that Debra really loved him. He worried that in reality, maybe she was a little out of his league.

Well, my favorite line was when Debra yelled at Ray, “I don’t care if you’ve got cold feet. Put on some socks!”

And it made me think: maybe that’s what we all need.

A good old kick in the butt.

A reminder that a little fear isn’t the end.

Do what you need to do and get over it.

So of course I think about my dear clients.

They are brave and smart.

They figuratively climb mountains all the time in their life.

And sometimes they get scared.

But scared doesn’t mean stop.

It means getting help.

It means looking at your thoughts and questioning their validity.

It means tweaking what you are doing.

But it never means, “Stop! Turn around, and go back down that mountain…”

It simply means, “Put on some socks!”

Ep 40 Why You Overeat When You’re Stressed

Tuesday, October 4th, 2016

Episode 40: Why You Overeat When You’re Stressed

If you’re alive, you have stress. If you have a job, some friends, or maybe some obligations, you have stress.

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We all have stress in some form or another, and yet we don’t all eat in reaction to it.

Today, I’m going to talk to you about stress and your eating. Or, your overeating, that is.

Do you even know exactly what stress is?

Let’s talk about it and I will show you:

  • What stress is.
  • How it shows up in your life, in your mind and your body.
  • Why you might overeat when you’re feeling stressed.
  • How eating got connected with your moods.
  • What exactly is the mind-body connection?
  • Does eating help you when you’re stressed?
  • Why do some people eat from stress while others lose their appetites?
  • Do you know what your stress eating patterns are?
  • How to stop the habit of overeating when life is too much.
  • Is the goal to eliminate all stress from your life? (Hint: no.)

So we’re going to take a look at what you do when life feels like too much to deal with and the feeling of overwhelm is high.

Is eating inevitable? No.

Join me in this coaching session to learn to recognize your own stress eating patterns and start the process of disconnecting food from mood.

I’ll see you in the session.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Do You Try To Rush Through The Middle?

Thursday, September 29th, 2016

Almost everyone I work with is very excited in the beginning.

Woman in the middle of a raceAh, the beginning.

The honeymoon.

The bright-eyed, bushy-tailed version of you.

Ready to do anything.

In love with the thought of what’s to come.

Hot for results. Hot for the end.

Relish the Middle

Very soon we progress to the middle.

The shine wears off.

The brow sweats.

The enthusiasm lags.

Where’s the end you promised? This in-between stuff isn’t for me!

But.

This is the juicy part.

It’s where you grow.

It’s the part where you solve problems.

This is where you do the work.

For real.

Unglamorous.

Messy.

Inconvenient.

But super important.

Relish the middle.

It’s the only way to get to your end.

Ep 38 Want to Lose Weight? Let’s Look at the Patterns that Caused You to Gain It — Part 2 of 2

Tuesday, September 20th, 2016

Episode 38: Want to Lose Weight? Let’s Look at the Patterns that Caused You to Gain It. Part 2 of 2

I know you’ve struggled. I know you don’t totally get why you can’t lose this weight.

But I do know how you can permanently lose the weight AND lose the whole problem.

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The answer: let me coach you and show you your patterns. Let’s take a good, deep look at how you got here, so you’re never in this position again.

Here’s what we’ll cover together in this episode:

  • Why it’s important to shine the light on your patterns: no more secrets!
  • No one does everything wrong, including you. But I’ll bet you lump all your failures together, and I’ll show you how to stop doing that.
  • Let’s move your focus from what went wrong to what you do right. (I’ll show you that there ARE things you do right!)
  • What have you been doing that you know you should do more of?
  • What habits do you have that you know you want to drop?
  • And what are you doing that you’d like to do less of?
  • Why knowing your patterns creates your own personal GPS, and let’s you create a perfect path to what you want.
  • How to create a personal plan for yourself, because generic plans don’t work.

You can do this. And figuring out what went wrong is the first step to doing things different.

Join me in this coaching session. Let’s do this!

Here is the worksheet mentioned in the episode: Discovering Your Patterns.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 37 Want to Lose Weight? Let’s Figure Out Why You Gained It First — Part I of 2

Tuesday, September 13th, 2016

Episode 37: Want to Lose Weight? Let’s Figure Out Why You Gained It First. Part I of 2

All my clients are in a big hurry to get to their weight goal. They don’t want to waste a moment; they just want to get to the end.

I tell them the words they need to hear but definitely don’t want to hear. Those words: slow down!

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If you don’t slow down and take a peek in the rear-view mirror, you’ll never learn how you ended up where you are, how you gained the weight.

And then you’ll be doomed to keep repeating your patterns.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this coaching session, the first of a two-part series:

  • Exactly why you need to look at your past weight and eating history.
  • Why your weight right now is exactly where it should be.
  • How to look at your weight and fact the facts, and not create drama about it.
  • Your weight today is no mystery… and why that’s a good thing.
  • What patterns led you to today?
  • Did you deal with your moods in the past with food?
  • Was your motivation lagging?
  • Did you have a strong vision of what you wanted?
  • Do you know how to pick yourself up when you inevitably fall down?
  • Did restriction and deprivation hold you back?
  • Are you a perfectionist? Perfectionism and weight loss don’t mix!

Let me help you figure out what went wrong so you don’t repeat it again.

You did the best you could in the past. But now, let me show you how to do better.

Here are the two worksheets mentioned in the episode: The Miracle Question and Creating My End Game.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 35 Losing the Weight AND Losing the Struggle

Tuesday, August 30th, 2016

Episode 35: Losing the Weight AND Losing the Struggle

Imagine this: You’re in the process of losing weight, or perhaps you have already lost weight and now want to maintain it.

And now you find yourself worrying about situations like going to a restaurant, or a party.

Does it feel like a constant struggle?

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Losing weight and maintaining it, and changing your eating habits doesn’t have to be so hard. It should not feel like you are constantly hanging by a thread.

And I will show you how to live so it’s not so hard.

In this episode I will coach you and teach you:

  • Why you may constantly struggle.
  • What your fears may turn into if you don’t get control of them.
  • What you need to focus on to make your new way of eating a simple, sustainable habit.
  • The five foundational skills that will help you in any eating situation.
  • What happens when you develop, cultivate and grow these foundational skills.
  • And, your first step toward mastering these skills.

You can be anywhere, do anything, and be with anyone, and not be worried or struggle with how it will affect your eating.

Get comfy and grab a notepad… you might want to write some of these concepts down. Let’s dive in!

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle. You may also email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Why Overeating Leads to More Overeating

Thursday, May 26th, 2016

Overeating and OverwhelmedWhat triggers you to eat more than your body wants?

It all starts with a thought.

That thought leads us to a feeling, good or bad, it doesn’t matter.

And that feeling leads us to take action.

When we take action, we get a result.

Overeat often, and the result you’ll get is extra weight.

This is basic Cognitive Behavioral Psychology.

Now picture this scenario: you have eaten past hunger, past comfort.

Physically you feel overstuffed and uncomfortable.

Your emotional feeling might be something like shame, regret, depression, anger, or hopelessness.

All of those feelings come from your thoughts.

So after you overeat, as soon as you start to feel these negative emotions, you feel uneasy.

As these bad feelings begin to arise, resistance also arises. You don’t want to feel shame or depression or hopelessness.

So, what’s a girl to do?

Eat more.

Overeating begets more overeating because of what we say to ourselves.

When we start beating ourselves, our survival instinct kicks in and we want relief.

We want it now.

We want to feel better.

How can we do this?

The easiest way to drown out a bad feeling if overeating is your modus operandi, is to overeat some more. (If you overspend, or overdrink, or over-anything, your M.O. will be to do more of the same.)

And this cycle can go on and on until you are really physically ill.

After we overeat, we commonly think, “Oh well, I blew it, I may as well keep going and enjoy this food and start again tomorrow.”

I think there’s more to “I blew it” than meets the eye.

After you ‘blew it’, do you really enjoy what you are continuing to eat?

Really?

“I blew it” implies you goofed, and now you may as well give up.

I say “I blew it” is a cover for “I can’t stand this discomfort one moment longer. I need food.”

So you eat.

And now you can focus your thoughts and your energy on what you just ate, how you blew your program again, and what’s wrong with you. Mostly what’s wrong with you.

It’s a never ending cycle.

Sounds crappy.

Feels crappy.

Imagine this: next time you overeat, and you’ve completed the first round of food, just sit. Get away from the food, and set a timer for 15 minutes. See what you feel. Notice what you’re thinking. (Here’s a worksheet to help you do this… click here to open.)

But here’s the deal: don’t go to your usual feeling-squasher. Sit with it. Let it pass though you. Here’s where you have the power to stop. To turn things around.

You don’t have to complete this overeating episode in the way you always do. You can break the chains that bind you any time.

What if you completely changed your perspective?

Instead of thinking that you boarding a fast-moving train and can’t get off, think of this:

You overate.

But it’s what you do after that will pack on the pounds of shame. Dr. Stephen Gullo, a diet guru to New York City high society, calls it the ‘slip to sleep syndrome’.

After your first slip, your first bite of something you didn’t have hunger for, your first phase of overeating, if you stop, you can minimize the damage to your psyche. Not to mention your body.

But what most of us do is continue the damage until we go to bed that night, bloated and wounded, adding insult to self-injury.

You’ve never blown it.

What does ‘blown it’ mean, anyway?

Can’t Get Started?

Thursday, May 12th, 2016

Swimmers get startedSometimes, the hardest part of getting where you want to go isn’t staying on the path and it isn’t finishing. It’s how to get started.

When I work with private clients, we frequently make a weekly plan of action to get them started on their weight loss journey. This plan might cover areas like eating, movement, mindset, self-care and overcoming any upcoming challenges. Together, we set goals in these areas.

Often my clients will come back the following week with some of their goals accomplished.

Of course, this is good.

Other times, my clients will return to our next session with none of their goals accomplished. They report feeling ‘overwhelmed’ and unable to make any movement at all.

This too, is good.

How can that be?

When you find yourself unable to do what you know you want to do, it could mean several things.

It could mean that you have made your steps too big.

Like trying to go from eating MacDonald’s daily to eating only organic vegan.

While that example seems obvious, many of us set the bar too high, too fast when trying to accomplish anything. We think about what seems reasonable to do and we disregard where we are starting from.

That leads to overwhelm.

And overwhelm leads to inaction.

Being unable to get started can also be looked at as your own personal barometer.

You might even consider it a blessing!

Although it may feel frustrating when you can’t get started on something you want to do, it may be because you have conflicting beliefs about what you are attempting.

When you want to change a habit, think about what you believe about your current habit.

If your main belief about changing that habit is that it’s really hard, and because you’ve never done it before it’s not likely you will succeed, then you will unconsciously work to prove yourself right.

But what’s great about this roadblock is that it gives you a chance to unearth those beliefs that prevent you from getting started, and gives you the opportunity to replace them with beliefs that will help you.

Another possibility that might hold you back from getting started on something that you really want is the payoff you are getting from NOT changing the old habit.

Yes, even with some behavior you really want to change, and are so mad and frustrated with yourself for doing, there’s something you’re getting out of it.

For example, if your goal is to plan your meals and shop so you have what you need in the house when you need it, when you don’t plan and shop, the payoff might be: 1) you get to spend that time doing something else, 2) you get to eat like you have been, without really thinking, or 3) you get to avoid confronting yourself and seeing what comes up when you do something new and uncomfortable.

If you can’t get started on something that you really want, think about these questions:

  • Why do you want this?
  • Is this reason really compelling?
  • How will it make you feel if you can achieve this goal?
  • Does it feel right in your gut?
  • Have you broken your steps down into small enough bites?
  • What beliefs might be holding you back?

Now, take the tiniest, baby step.

That step might be so small that you don’t think it’s worth mentioning.

But it is.

And all those baby steps will add up.

Right now, I hear some mumbling about how long things will take with these tiny baby steps.

Time will pass at the same rate, whether you take these steps or not. But if you do, you will inevitably get where you want to go.

Take one step today.