Posts Tagged ‘feeling deprived’

Episode 102: Listener Questions About Sugar, Caffeine and Alcohol

Tuesday, December 12th, 2017

Episode 102: Listener Questions About Sugar, Caffeine and Alcohol

Have you ever wondered if you were the only person in the world who struggled with a particular challenge?

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Chances are, you’re not.

Unique as you are, you’re not alone in this journey. And you’re not alone in what you find difficult, and what you are seeking answers to.

So today, I am answering questions from three listeners. I think you will relate to these questions.

One is from Mary about sugar. One is from Sudha about drinks and caffeine. And the last is from Paula about alcohol.

Each one of these may have its own future podcast episode.

In this coaching session, I mention a previous podcast about deprivation. Please check that out, because when you say ‘no’ to yourself, that sneaky brain of yours might try to convince you that you’re deprived.

You’re not! And I want you to understand why.

I am approaching the questions about sugar, caffeine and alcohol from a coaching and psychology perspective. Not from the perspective of body chemistry or nutrition.

Let me know what you think and if you’ve ever struggled with any of these substances. Do you keep them in your life? If so, in what amounts? What are your guidelines?

Let’s take a look at the mindset of indulging in sugar, caffeine and alcohol, and how they might affect you.

Mentioned in this episode: Episode 22: How Fear of Deprivation Makes You Overeat and What to Do About It


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When Does Fun-Size Candy Stop Being Fun?

Thursday, November 10th, 2016

Fun-sized candy barWhen Halloween is over, what happenings with all that leftover candy in your house?

Are your fun-size treats still fun?

Or are you paying too high a price for all the fun you’ve had?

Halloween is a great holiday.

The costumes.

The decorations.

And yes, the candy.

Many of my clients start thinking about the candy to come in early September.

Imagine, a nationally-sanctioned holiday that encourages you to have gobs of sugary treats on hand.

And how convenient that the food industry came up with the adorable ‘fun-size’ for candy!

So, how many pieces of fun-size candy can you have before it stops being fun?

It’s like all other pleasures.

There’s a tipping point.

Too little, and we tell ourselves we’re deprived.

Life isn’t fair!

Poor us!

Too much and we cross over into the land of shame, regret and self-flagellation.

What’s the answer?

How do you find that middle ground where pleasure is pleasurable, not painful?

Let’s start right now.

Look at your leftover treats.

Weed out what you don’t really love.

Toss it or give it away. Today.

Now take a look at what’s left and decide what’s really worth eating.

You are an adult.

Of course you can give yourself some candy.

But you need to decide what, when and how much to have.

Put the candy that’s left away so you’re not fantasizing about it all day.

And when you decide you’d like a little treat, indulge.

Enjoy.

Taste.

Savor.

And then move on.

It will be there waiting for you until your next treat time.

What you’ve just done is SO smart!

You’ve taken charge.

You’ve made a decision.

You’ve enjoyed.

You’ve stayed in the pleasure zone.

No more guilt, shame or pain for you.

It just doesn’t taste good.

And it’s certainly not fun.

Ep 38 Want to Lose Weight? Let’s Look at the Patterns that Caused You to Gain It — Part 2 of 2

Tuesday, September 20th, 2016

Episode 38: Want to Lose Weight? Let’s Look at the Patterns that Caused You to Gain It. Part 2 of 2

I know you’ve struggled. I know you don’t totally get why you can’t lose this weight.

But I do know how you can permanently lose the weight AND lose the whole problem.

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The answer: let me coach you and show you your patterns. Let’s take a good, deep look at how you got here, so you’re never in this position again.

Here’s what we’ll cover together in this episode:

  • Why it’s important to shine the light on your patterns: no more secrets!
  • No one does everything wrong, including you. But I’ll bet you lump all your failures together, and I’ll show you how to stop doing that.
  • Let’s move your focus from what went wrong to what you do right. (I’ll show you that there ARE things you do right!)
  • What have you been doing that you know you should do more of?
  • What habits do you have that you know you want to drop?
  • And what are you doing that you’d like to do less of?
  • Why knowing your patterns creates your own personal GPS, and let’s you create a perfect path to what you want.
  • How to create a personal plan for yourself, because generic plans don’t work.

You can do this. And figuring out what went wrong is the first step to doing things different.

Join me in this coaching session. Let’s do this!

Here is the worksheet mentioned in the episode: Discovering Your Patterns.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 37 Want to Lose Weight? Let’s Figure Out Why You Gained It First — Part I of 2

Tuesday, September 13th, 2016

Episode 37: Want to Lose Weight? Let’s Figure Out Why You Gained It First. Part I of 2

All my clients are in a big hurry to get to their weight goal. They don’t want to waste a moment; they just want to get to the end.

I tell them the words they need to hear but definitely don’t want to hear. Those words: slow down!

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If you don’t slow down and take a peek in the rear-view mirror, you’ll never learn how you ended up where you are, how you gained the weight.

And then you’ll be doomed to keep repeating your patterns.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this coaching session, the first of a two-part series:

  • Exactly why you need to look at your past weight and eating history.
  • Why your weight right now is exactly where it should be.
  • How to look at your weight and fact the facts, and not create drama about it.
  • Your weight today is no mystery… and why that’s a good thing.
  • What patterns led you to today?
  • Did you deal with your moods in the past with food?
  • Was your motivation lagging?
  • Did you have a strong vision of what you wanted?
  • Do you know how to pick yourself up when you inevitably fall down?
  • Did restriction and deprivation hold you back?
  • Are you a perfectionist? Perfectionism and weight loss don’t mix!

Let me help you figure out what went wrong so you don’t repeat it again.

You did the best you could in the past. But now, let me show you how to do better.

Here are the two worksheets mentioned in the episode: The Miracle Question and Creating My End Game.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 31 When it Comes to Weight Loss, Must You Always Keep Your Promises?

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2016

Episode 31: When it Comes to Weight Loss, Must You Always Keep Your Promises?

How to Know When to Keep Your Promise to Yourself and When to Negotiate a New One

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You have a goal. Check!

You have a great reason for losing weight. Your big ‘why’. Check!

And you create a plan. Check!

All systems ready to go.

But wait! As you start your project of working on your mind and body, certain situations come up. Situations that cause you to want to change plans and not keep your promises to yourself.

What do you do? Do you change plans or keep your word, no matter what?

Here’s how to look at this common condition:

  • When you make plans, why do things always come up that cause you to second-guess yourself?
  • Do you have a flexible plan? Or stay firm no matter what?
  • What’s the danger of not keeping your promises to yourself?
  • Does it sound like a whole debate team in your head when you try to figure out what to do?
  • Is the road narrow all the time? Or can you widen the road and still be on it?
  • What if you think you’ll never get the opportunity to eat this food again? Ever?
  • Should you bend your own rules when the desire to eat comes from an emotion?

Join me as I coach you on promises. Promises you make to yourself to help you change your eating. When to keep them and when to break them.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle. You may also email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

You Are Not Deprived

Thursday, July 28th, 2016

deprivedSo many of us fear deprivation.

And one of the areas that we fear this most in is eating.

Although we all want to live in fit and healthy bodies, as soon as we begin to create our new reality, feelings of deprivation creep in.

Uh oh.

I can’t do whatever I want.

This isn’t fair!

I can’t eat whatever I want.

I can’t live like this!

I’m so deprived!

Guess what?

You are not deprived.

When you decide that you want something and go after it, usually it means that you’ll be taking some actions that are different than what you are currently doing.

So, if your goal is a slim, fit body and lifestyle, chances are you’ll be eating and moving differently than you are right now.

But, when you make a decision to do anything…

You are the boss.

You are the creator.

You are choosing what you do, for you, and for the goals you want most.

Deprivation comes when you can’t do or have something you really want.

So, you can do whatever you want.

You can eat whatever you want.

You are in charge.

Always.

When you choose to make changes, you are never deprived.

You are choosing a different reality.

A reality more aligned with what you really want.

So stop telling yourself you’re deprived.

It’s a lie that keeps you stuck where you are.

You are making a choice to take care of yourself in a different way.

Different.

Not deprived.

Ep 22 How Fear of Deprivation Makes You Overeat and What to Do About It

Tuesday, May 31st, 2016

Episode 22: How Fear of Deprivation Makes You Overeat and What to Do About It

Deprivation Podcast 22

Are you at risk for being at the mercy of deprivation?

Well, not real deprivation.

All it takes is you believing that not getting what you want means you are deprived.

Sorry friends, but deprivation usually only happens in your mind.

In the world we live in, it’s truly rare that you are deprived.

Listen to this episode, and here’s what you’ll learn:

  • What deprivation truly is.
  • Why feeling deprived leads you to overeat. A lot.
  • How to say no to yourself without creating deprivation.
  • What effect your thoughts have on your feelings of deprivation.
  • Where do your tendencies to feel deprived come from?
  • How can you lose weight and say no to yourself?
  • Why it’s okay to say no sometimes.
  • What does your inner teenager have to do with deprivation?
  • How your parents might have set you up to revolt against ever saying no to yourself.

Join me and learn to never use deprivation as an excuse to eat food your body isn’t really asking for. And, when you break free from the deprivation mindset, you’ll find eating according to any plan much, much easier.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/free-gifts/

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 18 How to Handle Parties, Holidays, Special Occasions, and Travel While You’re Working on Losing Weight

Tuesday, May 3rd, 2016

Episode 18: How to Handle Parties, Holidays, Special Occasions, and Travel While You’re Working on Losing Weight

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Have you ever thought that if only your office didn’t have so many snacks around, you’d do better on your weight loss plan?

Or maybe you’ve thought that the parties and holidays always kill your best intentions to eat well and take care of yourself.

Well, I want to talk to you about all the events, holidays, temptations, office parties and every eating situation that you’ve thought has thrown you off track.

Here’s the truth. Join me as I coach you and show you:

  • It’s not the event that throws you off track, but what you think about the event.
  • How you can be surrounded by the most delicious looking food and not be tempted to eat if you’re not hungry.
  • Why I think you should ‘stay in your own pod’ when it comes to eating decisions.
  • How to never feel deprived even when everyone around you is eating.
  • The way you create your ‘poor me’ stories about eating that cause you to give in and eat time and time again, when you’re not even hungry.
  • And, how to deal with any situation that is based around eating, and still take care of your needs without feeling like you are missing out.

Imagine going to any event, or vacation, or business trip and not worrying about what kind of food will be there.

Listen to this enlightening episode and never be afraid of social situations again.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 10 Where to Start on Your Weight Loss Journey: Conquer Your Overwhelm and Perfectionism

Tuesday, March 8th, 2016

Episode 10: Where to Start on Your Weight Loss Journey: Conquer Your Overwhelm and Perfectionism

Overwhelm Podcast 10

It’s more common than you think to be filled with feelings of overwhelm when you begin an eating program. When you’re working on your body, your mind and your self-care, it may seem like there are so many moving parts to this project that it’s hard to know where to begin.

What happens then is the dreaded ‘overwhelm’, which may lead you to giving up, right at the beginning!

Another common roadblock you may encounter on the way to weight loss is perfectionism. This too can derail you completely, causing you to stop pursuing your goals. Sad, isn’t it? Especially when there’s a solution.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

Here’s what our coaching session will cover today:

  • What is overwhelm and how do you create it?
  • What does overwhelm lead you to do?
  • How can you play an active role in feeling something much better than ‘overwhelm’?
  • What is perfectionism?
  • If you’ve always leaned toward perfectionism, are you doomed to keep repeating this habit?
  • How do you want to feel if your goal is to do what’s right, without forcing yourself?
  • Hear my own story about deprivation and perfectionism: I used to blame my hubby!
  • What to put your focus on when starting any weight program.
  • Why taking the tiniest steps is better than making your goals too large.

I hope you enjoy this episode!

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d be grateful if you could leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 9 Master Your Weight Loss: Get Yourself To Do the Right Thing

Tuesday, March 1st, 2016

Ep 9 Master Your Weight Loss: Get Yourself To Do the Right Thing

Self Discipline Podcast 9

If having self-discipline sounds like the most boring, toughest thing you can do, and don’t want to do, then you need to listen to today’s podcast. When you think of self-discipline as the most loving thing you can do for yourself, you’ll be taking care of yourself on a whole new level.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

Here’s what you’ll learn in Episode 9:

  • Why you rebel against disciplining yourself.
  • What self-discipline really means, and what you mistakenly think it means.
  • How can you make self-discipline feel good?
  • What does it look like in your everyday life?
  • How can you create it in relation to your eating?
  • What steps do you need to take to make it feel easy and natural?
  • And how can you bring self-discipline into your life without dread and resentment?

All these questions are answered in this episode and more. Saying ‘no’ or ‘wait’ to yourself doesn’t feel as bad or challenging when you know why you’re doing it. The goal isn’t to force yourself to do what’s right for you, but to want to do what’s right for you. It’s all about creating rules for yourself that feel like love, not pain, and not hate.

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d be grateful if you could leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!