Posts Tagged ‘emotions and weight’

Losing Weight, Gaining Time

Tuesday, August 8th, 2017

timeHow much time do you spend thinking about what you eat?

And about what you didn’t eat?

How about what you want to eat?

And what you wish you hadn’t?

What about your body?

Wish it were thinner, firmer, smaller?

And let’s not forget the guilt.

How much time do you spend on guilt and regret for things you’ve eaten, for what you weigh, for basically, well, for being you?

Do you spend time thinking about weight you’ve gained?

Weight you haven’t lost?

Weight you wished you had lost?

How about counting?

Do you count points, calories, fat grams or carbs?

Do you search the bookstores for an answer?

Do you spend time wondering what is wrong with you?

Searching the internet for a magic bullet?

And how about the way you torture yourself when you get dressed.

What looks good on a body you wish were different?

I don’t know about you, but I’m getting tired just writing about all the time we spend thinking about weight, food and our bodies.

What a waste of the life you have!

  • You could be finding the love of your life.
  • Running a race.
  • Writing a killer report for work.
  • Starting a business.
  • Reading an incredible book.
  • Painting a gorgeous picture.
  • Listening to kickass music.
  • Dancing around your house.
  • Bonding with your best girlfriend.
  • Loving your kids.
  • Writing a book.
  • Watching a sunset.
  • Taking in a great movie.

Wow.

All the things you could be doing.

If you could lose your extra weight.

No.

If you could lose the whole problem.

Losing the weight takes care of the symptom.

Temporarily.

Losing the whole problem is a permanent fix.

For good.

So stop wasting your time.

Stop looking and obsessing and wishing and hating yourself.

Find out why you overeat, and do the work. Make the change at that deep level.

And you will gain enough time to create an incredible life.

Or make the one you already have awesome.

Why Letting Go Can Help You Move Forward

Thursday, August 16th, 2012

letting goAt this moment, I am a woman with half an empty nest.

My oldest daughter moved into her college dorm recently. Freshman year.

And I am home, pondering how to miss her, while still letting go, and letting her grow into the beautiful young woman she is.

When I look back, and have a strong desire to hold on to her and to her childhood, I am met with pain. It’s inevitable.

But when I allow myself to look ahead, and be happy for the life she is creating on her own, I am happy.

It makes me think about the many things in life that change, and how we instinctively try to hold on to them.

Why do we try to prevent change? Why is letting go hard for us?

Because we all like the comfort of knowing that how things are is how they will remain.

But that thinking goes against the laws of the universe.

Because everything does change.

Whether we’re ready or not.

When I coach my clients to get to the root of their extra weight, I commonly hear goals that aren’t realistic.

They want to look like they looked at a certain age.

They want to fit into the jeans they wore before they had kids.

Or they want to eat whatever they want whenever they want and not gain an ounce, like they did when they were ten. (Maybe!)

They are essentially holding onto their past.

Their past definition of success.

And they need to let go.

In my case, I need to let go of my old relationship with my daughter, formed when she was a child. And look ahead.

Because if I look ahead, there is no limit to what kind of relationship I can have with this freshly-minted young adult.

When you want to move ahead in any area of your life, you need to say goodbye to how you were, without regret.

Don’t make your goal include holding on to how you used to be.

Look ahead.

Everything you want is just over the horizon.

Just a little outside of your comfort zone.

It looks different.

But it’s all good.