Posts Tagged ‘emotional eating’

Episode 104: Four Concepts to Focus on in the New Year

Tuesday, December 26th, 2017

Episode 104: Four Concepts to Focus on in the New Year

Cookie is taking a brief health-related leave of absence, but she will be back. In the meantime, listen to episodes 1 – 104 and dive deeper into all the content with the Podcast Study Guide. And be sure to get on the wait list so you know when the Freedom Group opens up, and be coached by Cookie.

New year podcast 104

Can you believe it’s the end of another year with me? We’ve had so many coaching sessions together, with lots of new information.

I wanted to take today to outline for you some of the things I want you to focus on in the New Year.

Here they are:

1. I want you to listen to Episode 57. Here, we talk about the four most dangerous words you can say to yourself. Any idea what they are? They are: “I ALREADY KNOW THAT!”

When you say these words, you guarantee that you won’t learn anything new, or change your perspective.

2. Next, revisit Episode 68. I want you to understand why it’s so important to take a leap of faith. We will talk about what it is, and of course, how to do it. You cannot move forward if you don’t do what you have never done. I understand that you have no proof that you can do the unknown, but this is how you do it. You take a leap of faith. And you build your confidence.

3. Now, we move on to Episode 70. How often do you fall down and instead of getting back up, you say: “Screw it!” This is a dead-end statement. It stops you in your tracks, and it can become very habitual. Let’s learn how to fall down and get back up quickly!

4. And finally, have a listen to Episode 75. Do you have CLEAR guidelines? How you will eat? And why? And when? And how will you know when to stop? If you are thinking, “No, but I’ll just be good,” this won’t work. Clear guidelines are the way to go if you want definite results.

Join me in this session that summarizes some of the most important things you learned with me this year.

See you soon.


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey.

Collection 1: Episodes 1 – 52 contains these great features: easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode, room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes, a direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries, an action step for each episode, links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

Get all the details and purchase your copy today.


The Freedom Group

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help. The Freedom Group is a coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program. Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

How to Keep Doing What Works

Wednesday, December 13th, 2017

Keep doing what worksA while back, I completed a class on weight loss coaching. It was one of the most intense experiences in my life.

In a good way.

I love taking classes and view it as an integral ingredient for my happiness.

So, I finished the class and was certified.

And I had gained a few pounds.

What?

A weight loss coach, training on weight loss and gaining weight?

Yup!

Here’s what happened.

When you’re trying to make a change in your life, it usually involves stopping something you are doing and starting something you aren’t doing.

You pay attention.

You keep track.

In my case, I was on a daily forum, posting my thoughts, my feelings, my weight(!) and what I ate.

We were all totally focused.

We got into a groove.

And it worked.

After a few weeks of doing a new thing, we started to get some momentum.

Aha!

We created the good feelings we wanted.

We think we’re over the hump.

And suddenly, wham!

We slip and slide and lose touch with ourselves and assume we’re back where we started.

That’s what happened to me.

During this intense class, I lost several pounds. Very close to my ideal weight. I felt great!

And then when class was over, the weight came back.

This happens all the time to my clients.

First, know that when you slide backwards from a change you’re making, you’re never really back where you started.

You can’t erase what you’ve learned.

It’s in your head.

But notice what you did.

You stopped.

Stopped focusing.

Stopped paying attention.

And stopped taking the actions that were working.

So, does this mean you need to keep doing what works, what you were doing to lose weight if you want to keep it off?

YES!

You do. Keep doing what works.

Change is a long-term process.

It’s challenging.

You are re-training your brain to take a new route to work.

And this requires practice.

Knowing this ahead of time helps you prepare yourself for your change to be permanent.

So, what can YOU do to make your change more permanent? (I am right with you here.)

When things are going well, stop and notice how you feel. This good feeling is your goal.

Look at what you’re thinking when things are going well. These are your new go-to thoughts that will keep you on track. Put them on an index card, on your fridge, in your car and on your computer. I’m not kidding. These thoughts got you where you are. Capture them!

Now, take a good look at the actions you’ve been taking. They worked, right? So, you need to keep doing them. For a long time.

Any change you make is a series of steps.

Of thoughts.

Of feelings.

And of actions.

You don’t just do them a few times and wake up a new person.

But once you’ve done them, and you feel good, just keep going.

Keep focusing.

Keep tracking yourself.

And keep doing what works.

That’s the secret.

Episode 102: Listener Questions About Sugar, Caffeine and Alcohol

Tuesday, December 12th, 2017

Episode 102: Listener Questions About Sugar, Caffeine and Alcohol

Have you ever wondered if you were the only person in the world who struggled with a particular challenge?

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Chances are, you’re not.

Unique as you are, you’re not alone in this journey. And you’re not alone in what you find difficult, and what you are seeking answers to.

So today, I am answering questions from three listeners. I think you will relate to these questions.

One is from Mary about sugar. One is from Sudha about drinks and caffeine. And the last is from Paula about alcohol.

Each one of these may have its own future podcast episode.

In this coaching session, I mention a previous podcast about deprivation. Please check that out, because when you say ‘no’ to yourself, that sneaky brain of yours might try to convince you that you’re deprived.

You’re not! And I want you to understand why.

I am approaching the questions about sugar, caffeine and alcohol from a coaching and psychology perspective. Not from the perspective of body chemistry or nutrition.

Let me know what you think and if you’ve ever struggled with any of these substances. Do you keep them in your life? If so, in what amounts? What are your guidelines?

Let’s take a look at the mindset of indulging in sugar, caffeine and alcohol, and how they might affect you.

Mentioned in this episode: Episode 22: How Fear of Deprivation Makes You Overeat and What to Do About It


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey.

Collection 1: Episodes 1 – 52 contains these great features: easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode, room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes, a direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries, an action step for each episode, links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

Get all the details and purchase your copy today.


The Freedom Group

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help. The Freedom Group is a coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program. Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 101: Using These Podcasts as Your Own Private Coaching Sessions

Tuesday, December 5th, 2017

Episode 101: Using These Podcasts as Your Own Private Coaching Sessions

I hope you are loving these podcasts and think of them as private coaching sessions between you and me. That is how I think when I’m recording them for you.

Coaching podcast 101

Many of you have written to me telling me amazing stories of weight lost, habits changed and lives improved, all from listening to these coaching sessions.

And some of you have written to me asking for more help. You love the content of what I’m saying but you have trouble applying the ideas to your own, day-to-day life.

Well, that’s what we will cover today. I will show you how you can take these podcasts and use them to more deeply incorporate what I teach, into your days. This will help you change your eating, thinking and self-care. And of course, this is how you change your weight!

And, if you like things done for you, check out the link below for more information on my Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide. It’s designed to help you dive deeper into everything I talk about, so you can live the change, not just think about it.

I’ll see you in the coaching session.

Mentioned in this episode: Episode 5: Working on Project YOU: Creating Your Weight Loss Blueprint


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey.

Collection 1: Episodes 1 – 52 contains these great features: easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode, room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes, a direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries, an action step for each episode, links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

Get all the details and purchase your copy today.


The Freedom Group

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help. The Freedom Group is a coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program. Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

What To Do When You Can’t Stop Eating

Wednesday, November 8th, 2017

 

Stop eating

Who hasn’t been there?

You’re eating something delicious.

Maybe a favorite treat.

Maybe something you consider one of your ‘trigger foods’.

You’re full. Your body is satisfied.

But you get an automatic thought, telling you that you just can’t stop eating.

Not until it’s either gone, or you’re stuffed and sick.

You feel helpless.

Out of control.

Ashamed.

Maybe, for a moment, you just don’t care.

Nope.

In that moment, you tell yourself that:

You want to keep eating,

You couldn’t stop if you wanted to, and

You don’t care.

Guess what?

Lies.

Lies.

Lies.

Yes, you are lying to yourself.

Here’s the truth.

Truth: When you are eating without real hunger, your body doesn’t want to keep eating.

But your devious little mind does.

It’s playing tricks on your body.

Truth: You are in total and complete control of what and how much you eat.

Always.

When you think you’re not, you’ll act like you’re not.

But when you think you’re in charge, guess what?

Stopping won’t be a big deal.

Truth: You do care.

You always care.

You may go in and out of awareness of this truth.

But it will keep coming around to remind you.

That’s why, when you finish overeating, you feel regret.

Remorse.

Self-hate.

So, if you want to stop eating when your body has had enough, take a little break.

A pause.

Step away from the food.

Give yourself a moment to think.

Check in.

Are you hungry?

Physically in your body?

If you are, eat a little bit more and check in with yourself again.

If you’re not, stop.

Stop eating.

Take a leap of faith and listen to your body.

Tell your mind to shut up!

And tell yourself, ‘I’ve got this!’

Now, walk through the discomfort of not eating.

Not a super big deal.

Just uncomfortable.

Once you do this a few times, it won’t seem as hard as it does now.

It will be uncomfortable in the beginning.

Truth: You can definitely do this.

Episode 87: Do You Get Most of Your Happiness from Food?

Tuesday, August 29th, 2017

Episode 87: Do You Get Most of Your Happiness from Food?

Exactly how much pleasure and happiness do YOU get from food? Do you sometimes feel like nothing else in your life can compete with the rush you get from a delicious dessert?

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Or the savory delight of a perfectly cooked cheeseburger and fries?

Or for you, maybe it’s that special plate of pasta you love?

No matter what it is, sometimes other pleasures don’t seem to live up to the jolt of good feeling you get when you eat something yummy.

That’s why we need to talk, my friend! We need to get honest about your definition of pleasure. And you need to disconnect your happiness from food, and put it in it’s rightful place: something that’s really good, but it’s one of many things you give yourself to feel great.

Let’s dive into this subject and solve this puzzle, so you don’t keep getting hung up on this common internal conflict.

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn about how The Freedom Group can help. The Freedom Group is a coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We’d love to have you in the group! Hurry, though! We close for enrollment this week, until 2018.

Coming Soon!

I am developing two new products especially for you: a Podcast Study Guide and a complete Weight Loss Made Real Home Study Program. If you would like to be notified when they are available, please click here and join the waiting list.

Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Episode 83: An Interview with JJ Virgin, Nutrition and Fitness Expert

Tuesday, August 1st, 2017

Episode 83: An Interview with JJ Virgin, Nutrition and Fitness Expert

Thanks for joining us today as I interview JJ Virgin, the celebrity and fitness expert. JJ is the author of four New York Times bestsellers: The Virgin Diet, The Virgin Diet Cookbook, JJ Virgin’s Sugar Impact and JJ Virgin’s Sugar Impact Diet Cookbook.

JJ Virgin podcast 83

You can find JJ and get her recipes, articles and helpful online programs at JJVirgin.com.

Here are some of the topics we covered in our chat today:

  • Food intolerances vs. allergies or sensitivities
  • Snacking vs. eating 3 meals a day
  • How to figure out your own personalized way of eating
  • Why JJ views your body as a chemistry lab
  • How stress fits into the equation of healthy living
  • Sugar: should we give it up?
  • Are artificial sweeteners helpful?
  • What about sugar cravings? And withdrawal?
  • Can you truly be addicted to sugar or any other food?
  • What does JJ mean about the ‘miracle mindset’?

Enjoy our discussion and hear the answers to questions my clients ask me all the time.

JJ VirginCelebrity nutrition and fitness expert JJ Virgin teaches clients how to lose weight and master their mindset so they can lead bigger, better lives. She is author of four NY Times bestsellers: The Virgin Diet, The Virgin Diet Cookbook, JJ Virgin’s Sugar Impact Diet, and JJ Virgin’s Sugar Impact Diet Cookbook.

Her memoir Miracle Mindset: A Mother, Her Son, & Life’s Hardest Lessons explores the powerful lessons in strength and positivity that she learned after her son Grant was the victim of a brutal hit-and-run accident.

JJ hosts the popular JJ Virgin Lifestyle Show podcast and regularly writes for Huffington Post, Rodale Wellness, and other major blogs and magazines. She’s also a frequent guest on TV and radio and speaks at major events.

In addition to her work with nutrition and fitness, JJ is also a business coach and founded the premier health entrepreneur event and community, The Mindshare Summit. Find articles, recipes, helpful online programs, and more at www.jjvirgin.com.

Coming Soon!

I am developing two new products especially for you: a Podcast Study Guide and a complete Weight Loss Made Real Home Study Program. If you would like to be notified when they are available, please click here and join the waiting list.

Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: The Freedom Group for emotional eating is closed for enrollment as we do some remodeling. It will reopen very soon, so get on the wait list here and be the first to know when we are taking new members: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Food Is Not Your Friend

Wednesday, July 26th, 2017

friendOf course food is not your friend.

You already know that.

You don’t rely on food to comfort you, do you?

You don’t go to food when things aren’t going well, do you?

And you certainly don’t feel most understood when you are in the presence of your favorite food, do you?

Ok, well, some of us may have done these things at one point or another.

But we’ve learned, right?

Food is just food.

But, just because we all know that food is not our friend, I just want to make sure that we also know that FOOD IS NOT THE ENEMY.

Food is just food. Just a substance that can nourish the body. It’s not good, it’s not bad.

Food is neutral.

No need to fear it, to stay away from it, or to give it any power.

It doesn’t really have the power to make you feel good.

And it doesn’t really have the power to make you feel bad.

You can do that all by yourself.

Hmmmm.

Maybe it’s time to find some new friends.

Episode 81: Bad Day? Don’t Eat Your Way Through a Bad Day

Tuesday, July 18th, 2017

Episode 81: Bad Day? Don’t Eat Your Way Through a Bad Day

When was the last time you had a ‘bad day’? Go back to that day and let’s think about it together.

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Did it feel like things just happened to you that you had no control over?

Sometimes things DO happen, to all of us. But things that happen don’t have to give us that dreaded bad day.

In this coaching session, we are going to make some changes in the way you think about your days, so the ‘bad’ days are much more rare.

What makes a bad day for you? And once you decide it’s a bad day, what happens? How is your bad day connected to your eating?

Let’s look at the truth behind what truly makes a bad day and show you where you do have so much more control than you think you do.

Can you change your feelings about your day and leave your food and eating out of it? Absolutely!

Let me give you a whole new perspective on how to treat yourself no matter what kind of day unfolds for you.

See you in the coaching session!

Coming Soon!

I am developing two new products especially for you: a Podcast Study Guide and a complete Weight Loss Made Real Home Study Program. If you would like to be notified when they are available, please click here and join the waiting list.

Gifts and Important Links

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Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Take Off The Gloves

Tuesday, June 20th, 2017

Woman with Boxing GlovesAre you guilty of beating yourself up?

For things you do?

For things you wish you had done?

How about for how you feel?

Or for how you look?

Or famously, for what you weigh?

Am I leaving anything out?

At one point or another, we’ve probably all succumbed to self-beating. It’s a learned reaction.

Instead of feeling compassion and seeing what we might need to feel better, we whip ourselves with our words or our thoughts.

And we add insult to injury.

Maybe we think that if we don’t put on boxing gloves and whip ourselves into shape, we’ll be worse.

Do less.

Eat more.

Make more mistakes.

Gain more weight.

Here’s how the cycle goes:

  • We think something that makes us feel crappy.
  • Then we make it worse with how we talk to ourselves.
  • And then, in a desperate attempt to feel better somehow, we partake in a shadow comfort.

A shadow comfort gives us immediate gratification, but hurts us in the long run.

So if we overeat or overspend or overdrink to relieve the painful beating in our head, we’ll pay for it when we’re done.

And then the voice continues.

On and on and on.

There’s only one way out of this mess.

Stop.

Stop talking to yourself in a way that you’d NEVER talk to anyone else.

Be kind.

Take off the boxing gloves.

You deserve better.