Posts Tagged ‘beliefs about losing weight’

Episode 68: Why You Need to Take a Leap of Faith

Tuesday, April 18th, 2017

Episode 68: Why You Need to Take a Leap of Faith

Whether you want to lose weight or stop bingeing, you need to do something differently than what you’ve always done.

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And when you try to do something differently, you come up against your thinking.

What if this doesn’t work? What if I just can’t do it? What if I’m different?

What do you do now that you’ve come up against these roadblocks?

There is no proof that something you’ve never done before will work. Yet if you don’t take different actions, you’ll keep doing what you’ve always done. And you know what result that gives you, right?

So the answer is to do what you’ve never done.

How?

By taking a leap of faith. By making an educated choice to do something that is different and uncomfortable and has the potential to take you to the results you dream of.

How do you create a new practice of taking a leap of faith to help you in your journey to lose weight and stop bingeing?

Listen in as I coach you on exactly that: how to get yourself to do new things, things you know are good for you, even though you’ve never done them before.

Talk with Cookie

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 44 Do You Think Weight Loss is TOO Hard?

Tuesday, November 1st, 2016

Episode 44: Do You Think Weight Loss is TOO Hard?

When was the last time you caught yourself saying, “This is just too hard!”?

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When you’re changing your eating to eat naturally and get to a comfortable weight, there will be challenges.

There will be roadblocks. But finding your way around the roadblocks is your work.

It’s necessary and helps you grow.

Here’s what we’ll cover in your coaching session today:

  • How do you define something as ‘hard’?
  • What goes on in your mind when you think something is TOO hard?
  • Understand how and why continually thinking things are too hard will keep you stuck exactly where you are.
  • I know this is hard to believe, but hard is good, and I will show you why.
  • How can you reframe ‘hard’?
  • Learn to manage your mind to deal with and even welcome challenges.
  • Can you think of a time you got through something challenging? How did you feel afterwards?
  • What is the key phrase you can use to feel good when you have a challenge, even if you don’t know how to move forward in the moment?

Join me today in your coaching session about doing hard things. If you want anything different than you have at this moment, then hard is on the menu. Let’s get you ready for it.

Click here to download the worksheet for this episode.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 32 How to Get Past Your Greatest Weight Loss Fears

Tuesday, August 9th, 2016

Episode 32: How to Get Past Your Greatest Weight Loss Fears

It’s inevitable. Just like clockwork. It always comes up.

All my clients think this. Sometimes it comes up early, in the consultation. Other times it comes up after a couple of coaching sessions, once my clients feel more comfortable with me.

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They ask:

  • Have you ever had a client who just couldn’t do it?
  • Couldn’t lose the extra weight?
  • Couldn’t stop emotionally eating? Or binge eating?

You might ask because you’re afraid.

Afraid of being the exception. Afraid of just not being able to do what it takes. Afraid that there’s something wrong with you. And that you will always, always struggle.

Just because you haven’t yet achieved what you want to achieve doesn’t mean you can’t. But I am talking about this today because I really want you to know that you’re not alone in having these fears.

I want you to face these fears and understand where they come from. Why they feel so real to you. And learn how to bust through these fears and do what you really want to do. Eat well. Stop when you’ve had enough. Create a body you feel good in. And live your life.

Join me as I talk about your most secret fears about your weight and your eating, and how to get rid of them now.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle. You may also email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Why Overeating Leads to More Overeating

Thursday, May 26th, 2016

Overeating and OverwhelmedWhat triggers you to eat more than your body wants?

It all starts with a thought.

That thought leads us to a feeling, good or bad, it doesn’t matter.

And that feeling leads us to take action.

When we take action, we get a result.

Overeat often, and the result you’ll get is extra weight.

This is basic Cognitive Behavioral Psychology.

Now picture this scenario: you have eaten past hunger, past comfort.

Physically you feel overstuffed and uncomfortable.

Your emotional feeling might be something like shame, regret, depression, anger, or hopelessness.

All of those feelings come from your thoughts.

So after you overeat, as soon as you start to feel these negative emotions, you feel uneasy.

As these bad feelings begin to arise, resistance also arises. You don’t want to feel shame or depression or hopelessness.

So, what’s a girl to do?

Eat more.

Overeating begets more overeating because of what we say to ourselves.

When we start beating ourselves, our survival instinct kicks in and we want relief.

We want it now.

We want to feel better.

How can we do this?

The easiest way to drown out a bad feeling if overeating is your modus operandi, is to overeat some more. (If you overspend, or overdrink, or over-anything, your M.O. will be to do more of the same.)

And this cycle can go on and on until you are really physically ill.

After we overeat, we commonly think, “Oh well, I blew it, I may as well keep going and enjoy this food and start again tomorrow.”

I think there’s more to “I blew it” than meets the eye.

After you ‘blew it’, do you really enjoy what you are continuing to eat?

Really?

“I blew it” implies you goofed, and now you may as well give up.

I say “I blew it” is a cover for “I can’t stand this discomfort one moment longer. I need food.”

So you eat.

And now you can focus your thoughts and your energy on what you just ate, how you blew your program again, and what’s wrong with you. Mostly what’s wrong with you.

It’s a never ending cycle.

Sounds crappy.

Feels crappy.

Imagine this: next time you overeat, and you’ve completed the first round of food, just sit. Get away from the food, and set a timer for 15 minutes. See what you feel. Notice what you’re thinking. (Here’s a worksheet to help you do this… click here to open.)

But here’s the deal: don’t go to your usual feeling-squasher. Sit with it. Let it pass though you. Here’s where you have the power to stop. To turn things around.

You don’t have to complete this overeating episode in the way you always do. You can break the chains that bind you any time.

What if you completely changed your perspective?

Instead of thinking that you boarding a fast-moving train and can’t get off, think of this:

You overate.

But it’s what you do after that will pack on the pounds of shame. Dr. Stephen Gullo, a diet guru to New York City high society, calls it the ‘slip to sleep syndrome’.

After your first slip, your first bite of something you didn’t have hunger for, your first phase of overeating, if you stop, you can minimize the damage to your psyche. Not to mention your body.

But what most of us do is continue the damage until we go to bed that night, bloated and wounded, adding insult to self-injury.

You’ve never blown it.

What does ‘blown it’ mean, anyway?

Episode 20: Are You Waiting for the Perfect Time to Lose Weight?

Tuesday, May 17th, 2016

Episode 20: Are You Waiting for the Perfect Time to Lose Weight?

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Are you waiting until the perfect time to commit to losing weight and taking care of yourself?

You may even have done this multiple times, and then when that time or date came, there was some seemingly legitimate reason to delay.

If you are tired of weight and food controlling your life, listen in as we talk about:

  • The main difference between those who accomplish their goals and those who don’t.
  • What problems really mean.
  • Reasons why you have trouble getting started and how to move beyond those reasons.
  • An exercise to reveal the causes of why you are struggling.
  • The cost and benefits of achieving your goal.
  • The cost and benefits of staying where you are now.
  • The biggest reason why you keep waiting for the perfect time, over and over again.
  • How challenges along the way will help you get there.
  • What to do right now so you can start today.

What are you waiting for? The perfect time to get started on achieving your goal of weight loss is now. Commit to yourself and to your future of not worrying about your weight.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 9 Master Your Weight Loss: Get Yourself To Do the Right Thing

Tuesday, March 1st, 2016

Ep 9 Master Your Weight Loss: Get Yourself To Do the Right Thing

Self Discipline Podcast 9

If having self-discipline sounds like the most boring, toughest thing you can do, and don’t want to do, then you need to listen to today’s podcast. When you think of self-discipline as the most loving thing you can do for yourself, you’ll be taking care of yourself on a whole new level.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

Here’s what you’ll learn in Episode 9:

  • Why you rebel against disciplining yourself.
  • What self-discipline really means, and what you mistakenly think it means.
  • How can you make self-discipline feel good?
  • What does it look like in your everyday life?
  • How can you create it in relation to your eating?
  • What steps do you need to take to make it feel easy and natural?
  • And how can you bring self-discipline into your life without dread and resentment?

All these questions are answered in this episode and more. Saying ‘no’ or ‘wait’ to yourself doesn’t feel as bad or challenging when you know why you’re doing it. The goal isn’t to force yourself to do what’s right for you, but to want to do what’s right for you. It’s all about creating rules for yourself that feel like love, not pain, and not hate.

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I’d be grateful if you could leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Shape Your Life, Shape Your Body

Wednesday, February 24th, 2016

shape your life to-do listAll of my weight loss clients are intelligent.

They have full, demanding lives.

Lots of relationships.

Many, many things on their ‘to do’ lists.

And, of course, there’s that annoying issue of carrying some extra weight on their bodies.

Sometimes it’s just 10 or 15 pounds.

Sometimes it’s a lot more.

Life moves along. Urgent things get done. Some things don’t.

Some things stay on the list forever.

  • Like taking care of yourself (what does that even mean to you?)
  • Like planning your meals so you actually have what you need in the house.
  • Like making time to stop and check in with yourself before you eat. Are you hungry?

When we create the habit of taking care of the loud demands, and putting off what’s not urgent, eventually even those quiet whispers get loud.

Your 10 pounds turn into 30.

You can’t find your gym shoes under the piles in your closet.

Your fridge is full but everything is past its expiration date.

The last time you had a physical was 2002.

When we procrastinate taking care of our lives, there will be a price to pay.

We sacrifice living the true, beautiful life we were meant to live, in the body we were meant to have.

We’re not happy. And we think the big problem is our weight.

Here’s the story: When we let things pile up, everything suffers. Long lists of things to do sometimes lead us to stressful thoughts. It becomes harder and harder to focus on the present moment because of all the things we’ve put off. They’re lurking.

So, how can you expect to eat well and listen to your body with all that psychic noise?

You can’t.

In order to reshape your body, the first step is to reshape your life.

This year, the focus of much of my coaching and writing will be about creating the life you want, getting what’s most important to you done, and taking care of yourself.

So, right now, even though you may want to lose some extra pounds, I invite you to take a different approach. Take a look at your life and really face all that you’ve been avoiding. And pick one small thing that you can take care of.

Now cut that thing in half.

And in half again.

Until it is so tiny a step, that success is visible.

And, as you get things in order and create loving and sustainable habits, you will wake up and feel lighter.

Mentally.

Emotionally.

Physically.

I will come back to this subject many times this year. Look for worksheets and all kinds of tools to help you navigate through this process. Because when you focus your attention on cleaning up and reshaping your life, reshaping your body will be a cinch.

xoxo,
Cookie

Ep 7 Managing Your Mind to Manage Your Emotional Eating

Tuesday, February 16th, 2016

Episode 7: Managing Your Mind to Manage Your Emotional Eating

Managing Your Mind

If you are challenged in any way with your eating or your weight, and worry about how much you eat and what you eat, you’re in for a surprise.

Because the more important focus really should be on managing your mind: how you think. That’s what leads you to make the choices you do.

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss. Get it here: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

Here’s what I will coach you on in this episode:

  • Learn how your mind affects every single thing you do, including eating.
  • Hear the basics of how your mind works.
  • Understand how your thoughts create your moods.
  • Simple ways to identify and change thoughts that aren’t helpful.
  • Examples of some common thought traps straight from my private clients.
  • You’ll learn why you need to manage your thoughts before you manage your food.
  • Figure out why you do the things you do.
  • How thoughts cause your emotional eating.
  • Understand why everything you do counts, and adds up.
  • And finally, see how you unknowingly create both your bad moods and your good moods.

To schedule your complimentary consultation, visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk.

If you can, please leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 2 Clearing Your Path to Weight Loss Success!

Tuesday, January 12th, 2016

Episode 2: Let’s Begin Clearing Your Path to Weight Loss Success!

Clear Your Path to Weight Loss Success

Here’s what you’ll get clarity on in this episode:

  • Why being ultra-clear on your weight loss goals is essential to reaching them.
  • How painting a detailed picture of yourself in the future (in your mind!) creates unstoppable motivation.
  • Why ‘losing weight’ isn’t enough of a goal to keep you moving forward. And what to do instead.
  • What feelings have to do with reaching your goal.
  • Where your main motivation needs to come from.

To get a copy of my FREE BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, go to: http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/book

Listen to this episode as I explain how to get yourself to do what you most want – to eat and live like a naturally slim woman. You don’t want to model yourself after a slim woman who is always on a diet and holding on for dear life. The goal is to live in a way where your eating is natural and not restricted. Wow! Won’t that be the ultimate freedom from your dieting past?

How do naturally slim women eat, think and care for themselves? That’s exactly what we cover in this episode. Join me, won’t you?

If you can, please leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Eating Is Always Your Choice

Wednesday, October 23rd, 2013

girl makes a choiceYou are always in charge of your eating.

Whether your choice is to eat or not eat.

How much you choose to eat.

When you start eating.

When you stop.

And, of course, what you eat.

Being in charge gives us a sense of freedom. It takes away the need to struggle.

No need to call upon willpower.

You don’t have to be ‘good’.

Because you are not forcing yourself to follow some external rules.

You are simply in charge and are following the guidelines of your body.

Eat when it’s hungry.

Stop when it’s satisfied.

And give it what it wants.

But, as soon as you begin to tell yourself to ‘be good’, or to ‘be careful’, or to not have something so you can lose weight as fast as possible, you will begin to rebel.

You will feel like you are being deprived.

That there is some restriction on what you can and cannot eat. And that you are no longer in charge.

And that, my friend, is the kiss of death to eating like a naturally slim person.

When you make up rules for yourself, or you follow someone else’s rules for your body, you will want to rebel against the rules and eat with abandon.

Your brilliant brain will respond to restriction and deprivation with overindulgence.

Binge eating.

And weight gain.

It’s just a little thing called survival. And we’re all wired for it.

Your brain is just doing what it’s supposed to do.

So play along.

Stop telling yourself that you have to eat or not eat something.

Instead, you are choosing to eat or not eat something because you want to, and because you think it will feel good and right in your body.

Not because you have to.

Because as soon as your brain hears: don’t, have to, should, or must!… it will respond with the urge to eat…

And you are not in survival mode.

Be relaxed as you make your choices.

And teach your brain that is wired for survival that you are just fine, thank you.

You don’t need to overdo anything because you are always able to get what you need.

You always have a choice.

And having choices is what freedom feels like.