Posts Tagged ‘beliefs about losing weight’

Episode 94: Don’t Believe All Your Thoughts

Tuesday, October 17th, 2017

Episode 94: Don’t Believe All Your Thoughts

Wait a minute – you shouldn’t believe everything you think? Aren’t your thoughts true? They sure seem to be the truth.

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Where do your thoughts even come from? What happens if you question your thoughts? And while we’re at it, what’s the difference between a thought, a belief, and a feeling?

We make a lot of assumptions every day – about our thoughts, our beliefs, our feelings, and our reality.

There is so much going on in your mind – all the time – that’s true. But you have the power to choose which thoughts to pay attention to. And what you choose affects your reality. But how do you choose?

Today we’ll talk about where your thoughts come from, how to know which ones to believe, and how to take back your power over them.

Listen to this coaching session to learn how your thoughts create your reality. Then use that knowledge to start creating an even better life for yourself – one thought at a time.

The Freedom Group

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help. The Freedom Group is a coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. Enrollment opens four times a year, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members.

Coming Soon!

Coming very soon will be a listener contest for 5 copies of my new upcoming podcast study guide. This guide will help you treat these podcasts like a course, where you can take notes and have my personal notes for each episode, with action steps to get the most out of them.

I am developing two new products especially for you: a Podcast Study Guide and a complete Weight Loss Made Real Home Study Program. If you would like to be notified when they are available, please click here and join the waiting list.

Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

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Episode 92: To Reach Your Weight Loss Goals, You Need to Play and Rest!

Tuesday, October 3rd, 2017

Episode 92: To Reach Your Weight Loss Goals, You Need to Play and Rest!

Are you all about your ‘to do’ list? Even when it comes to Project You?

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No rest for you! No play for you! Not until you lose those extra pounds. You don’t deserve it! Keep pushing ahead.

How sad. And how demotivating.

We need to step back and see our lives from a distance. You are working on Project You in these three parts: EAT, THINK, and LOVE.

All great! But now, let’s take Project You and put it into the bigger picture of your life: WORK, PLAY, and REST.

Yes, play and rest right now. Before you reach your weight loss goals. To help you get to those goals with more pleasure and peace. Right now.

Work, play and rest. Listen to this coaching session and see how you’re doing in all three areas.


Podcast Study Guide

The Weight Loss Made Real Podcast Study Guide was created to support you on your weight loss journey.

Collection 1: Episodes 1 – 52 contains these great features: easy-to-read summaries of all the main, most important concepts from each podcast episode, room for you to take notes that are relevant to you and your life, right there alongside the summary notes, a direct link to each episode for your reference and so you can easily listen while you read the summaries, an action step for each episode, links to additional resources mentioned are embedded right into the notes so you can easily access them, if desired… and much more!

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The Freedom Group

Do you struggle to lose weight or stop eating emotionally? If you do, click here to learn how The Freedom Group can help. The Freedom Group is a coaching program with me as your coach and a group of like-minded women who will help you reach your goals. We use my unique EAT, THINK, LOVE program. Enrollment will open soon, so get on the waiting list and be the first to know when we’re accepting new members.


Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Why Does It Have to Take So Long?

Wednesday, September 13th, 2017

Why Does It Take So LongOne of the most common things I hear from my clients is, ‘Why is it so slow?’

Why does weight loss take so long?

Here’s the simple answer:

When you do the work needed for real, lasting weight loss, your results will come in three stages.

First, you’ll learn to think in a totally different way.

You’ll stop going to food to solve a problem.

Unless the problem is hunger.

This is mindset work.

It will give you shifts in how you deal with life.

After the mindset shifts, the next stage you’ll go through will be changes in how you eat.

Once you do the mindset work, the changes in your eating will flow naturally.

And last, after mindset changes…

After eating changes…

comes weight loss.

The extra weight you’ve accumulated now has no reason to stay.

Your thinking has changed.

The cause of your overeating is disconnected.

So your eating changes.

And last, so does your weight.

It’s not really taking too long.

It’s perfectly on time.

Don’t Save It For The Prom

Wednesday, August 23rd, 2017

Red Prom Dress on HangerDid you ever hear the saying, ‘Don’t save it for the prom’?

It means, ‘What are you waiting for?’

What are you saving something for?

Why are you not doing it now?

Many of us wait.

We wait to wear nice clothes until we lose weight.

We won’t speak up in a relationship until we feel better about ourselves.

We won’t put our needs first until we deserve it.

The big question is: Why are we all waiting?

For this big event, the good feeling, the right number on the scale.

And then, we’ll give ourselves what we need.

We’ll stop saving it for the prom.

The prom is now.

The prom is your life.

Feel good today.

Wear clothes you like now.

Ask for what you need daily.

This is it.

Today is all we have for sure.

Stop waiting!

Episode 85: How to be Your Own Weight Loss Guru and Why You Should!

Tuesday, August 15th, 2017

Episode 85: How to be Your Own Weight Loss Guru and Why You Should!

Here’s what I hear all the time: “Just tell me what to eat!” “Just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” “Help me do this!”

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And here’s what I think when my group members say this: I am not your guru.

You are your guru, and you could be amazing at knowing exactly what do to and how to eat if you would stop looking outside of yourself.

You know yourself better than anyone. And that includes me. Yet you’re confused about what to do and how to do it. I understand.

I think your goal should be to learn how to think about your challenge, and not just look for someone, anyone, to tell you what to do and how to do it.

Do you want to stop being at the mercy of all the gurus out there? Then join me in this coaching session. We’ll talk all about gurus and why they are so appealing.

And then I will show you why you need to be your own guru and how to begin to do exactly that.

Are you curious about a group that empowers you to be your own, confident, knowing guru? Click here to read about the Freedom Group. If overeating or emotional eating is your thing, this group will empower you to learn to take care of yourself, learn how you should be eating for your particular body, and learn to manage your thoughts and emotions. This group only opens three times a year, so be sure to take a look now.

Coming Soon!

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I am developing two new products especially for you: a Podcast Study Guide and a complete Weight Loss Made Real Home Study Program. If you would like to be notified when they are available, please click here and join the waiting list.

Gifts and Important Links

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

What’s Blocking Your Goals?

Wednesday, July 12th, 2017

My clients, and in fact most people I know, frequently set goals.

For all kinds of things they want to achieve.

Sometimes they achieve their goals.

They make plans, they think the right thoughts, and take the right actions.

But sometimes, they don’t reach their goals.

And often, it’s because their goals are running smack into their belief systems, and there’s a conflict.

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So, what’s the way around this?

Do you work harder, longer or faster?

Do you make more plans, bigger plans or different plans?

Maybe you need to take more actions?

Nope.

It’s none of the above.

First you need to look at your beliefs.

See what they are.

Is there a conflict between what you want and what you believe?

If there is, that work – the work of examining and perhaps changing some of your beliefs, that must come first.

If you want more close relationships, but one of your core beliefs is that you are unlovable, it won’t be easy.

If you want to earn more money but hold the belief that good people don’t care about money, it won’t happen.

Or, if you want a vibrant, healthy body, but you secretly believe that self-care is selfish, you may correctly guess that getting fit will be an uphill battle.

The funny thing is, we all have core beliefs that guide our lives.

We’re just not aware of them.

So, before you set those goals, before you go down the road of glory and achievement, pause.

Spend some time figuring out your deep beliefs.

Look at them and decide whether they serve you.

Deal with them if they don’t.

Then move towards your goals.

Now you’ve got a good shot at reaching them.

Episode 68: Why You Need to Take a Leap of Faith

Tuesday, April 18th, 2017

Episode 68: Why You Need to Take a Leap of Faith

Whether you want to lose weight or stop bingeing, you need to do something differently than what you’ve always done.

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And when you try to do something differently, you come up against your thinking.

What if this doesn’t work? What if I just can’t do it? What if I’m different?

What do you do now that you’ve come up against these roadblocks?

There is no proof that something you’ve never done before will work. Yet if you don’t take different actions, you’ll keep doing what you’ve always done. And you know what result that gives you, right?

So the answer is to do what you’ve never done.

How?

By taking a leap of faith. By making an educated choice to do something that is different and uncomfortable and has the potential to take you to the results you dream of.

How do you create a new practice of taking a leap of faith to help you in your journey to lose weight and stop bingeing?

Listen in as I coach you on exactly that: how to get yourself to do new things, things you know are good for you, even though you’ve never done them before.

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Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 44 Do You Think Weight Loss is TOO Hard?

Tuesday, November 1st, 2016

Episode 44: Do You Think Weight Loss is TOO Hard?

When was the last time you caught yourself saying, “This is just too hard!”?

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When you’re changing your eating to eat naturally and get to a comfortable weight, there will be challenges.

There will be roadblocks. But finding your way around the roadblocks is your work.

It’s necessary and helps you grow.

Here’s what we’ll cover in your coaching session today:

  • How do you define something as ‘hard’?
  • What goes on in your mind when you think something is TOO hard?
  • Understand how and why continually thinking things are too hard will keep you stuck exactly where you are.
  • I know this is hard to believe, but hard is good, and I will show you why.
  • How can you reframe ‘hard’?
  • Learn to manage your mind to deal with and even welcome challenges.
  • Can you think of a time you got through something challenging? How did you feel afterwards?
  • What is the key phrase you can use to feel good when you have a challenge, even if you don’t know how to move forward in the moment?

Join me today in your coaching session about doing hard things. If you want anything different than you have at this moment, then hard is on the menu. Let’s get you ready for it.

Click here to download the worksheet for this episode.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle.

I always welcome your letters. You may email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Ep 32 How to Get Past Your Greatest Weight Loss Fears

Tuesday, August 9th, 2016

Episode 32: How to Get Past Your Greatest Weight Loss Fears

It’s inevitable. Just like clockwork. It always comes up.

All my clients think this. Sometimes it comes up early, in the consultation. Other times it comes up after a couple of coaching sessions, once my clients feel more comfortable with me.

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They ask:

  • Have you ever had a client who just couldn’t do it?
  • Couldn’t lose the extra weight?
  • Couldn’t stop emotionally eating? Or binge eating?

You might ask because you’re afraid.

Afraid of being the exception. Afraid of just not being able to do what it takes. Afraid that there’s something wrong with you. And that you will always, always struggle.

Just because you haven’t yet achieved what you want to achieve doesn’t mean you can’t. But I am talking about this today because I really want you to know that you’re not alone in having these fears.

I want you to face these fears and understand where they come from. Why they feel so real to you. And learn how to bust through these fears and do what you really want to do. Eat well. Stop when you’ve had enough. Create a body you feel good in. And live your life.

Join me as I talk about your most secret fears about your weight and your eating, and how to get rid of them now.

THE FREEDOM COACHING GROUP: If you’ve ever dreamed about having your own personal coach to work on your eating with you, you’re closer than you think. My coaching group is happening now! It’s super affordable, supportive, and an amazing resource if you struggle with overeating, emotional eating or binge eating. Take all you’re learning here on the podcast and go to the next level. Click here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/group to get all the details and join our group Weight Loss Made Real: The Freedom Group. Because really, isn’t freedom what we all want? I hope to see you in the group!

Make sure you get your FREE copy of my BOOK, Clearing Your Path to Permanent Weight Loss, plus other gifts. Get them here: http://weightlossmadereal.com/gifts

If you are ready to take your weight loss and eating issues to the next level, it’s time to talk with me. Visit http://www.weightlossmadereal.com/talk for a free consultation with Cookie and find out if coaching is the solution to your struggle. You may also email me at cookie@realweightlossrealwomen.com

I’d so appreciate it if you would leave me an honest rating and review on iTunes at http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/itunes. It will help the show and its ranking in iTunes a lot! How to rate and review on iTunes: http://realweightlossrealwomen.com/rate. Thank you and enjoy the show!

Why Overeating Leads to More Overeating

Thursday, May 26th, 2016

Overeating and OverwhelmedWhat triggers you to eat more than your body wants?

It all starts with a thought.

That thought leads us to a feeling, good or bad, it doesn’t matter.

And that feeling leads us to take action.

When we take action, we get a result.

Overeat often, and the result you’ll get is extra weight.

This is basic Cognitive Behavioral Psychology.

Now picture this scenario: you have eaten past hunger, past comfort.

Physically you feel overstuffed and uncomfortable.

Your emotional feeling might be something like shame, regret, depression, anger, or hopelessness.

All of those feelings come from your thoughts.

So after you overeat, as soon as you start to feel these negative emotions, you feel uneasy.

As these bad feelings begin to arise, resistance also arises. You don’t want to feel shame or depression or hopelessness.

So, what’s a girl to do?

Eat more.

Overeating begets more overeating because of what we say to ourselves.

When we start beating ourselves, our survival instinct kicks in and we want relief.

We want it now.

We want to feel better.

How can we do this?

The easiest way to drown out a bad feeling if overeating is your modus operandi, is to overeat some more. (If you overspend, or overdrink, or over-anything, your M.O. will be to do more of the same.)

And this cycle can go on and on until you are really physically ill.

After we overeat, we commonly think, “Oh well, I blew it, I may as well keep going and enjoy this food and start again tomorrow.”

I think there’s more to “I blew it” than meets the eye.

After you ‘blew it’, do you really enjoy what you are continuing to eat?

Really?

“I blew it” implies you goofed, and now you may as well give up.

I say “I blew it” is a cover for “I can’t stand this discomfort one moment longer. I need food.”

So you eat.

And now you can focus your thoughts and your energy on what you just ate, how you blew your program again, and what’s wrong with you. Mostly what’s wrong with you.

It’s a never ending cycle.

Sounds crappy.

Feels crappy.

Imagine this: next time you overeat, and you’ve completed the first round of food, just sit. Get away from the food, and set a timer for 15 minutes. See what you feel. Notice what you’re thinking. (Here’s a worksheet to help you do this… click here to open.)

But here’s the deal: don’t go to your usual feeling-squasher. Sit with it. Let it pass though you. Here’s where you have the power to stop. To turn things around.

You don’t have to complete this overeating episode in the way you always do. You can break the chains that bind you any time.

What if you completely changed your perspective?

Instead of thinking that you boarding a fast-moving train and can’t get off, think of this:

You overate.

But it’s what you do after that will pack on the pounds of shame. Dr. Stephen Gullo, a diet guru to New York City high society, calls it the ‘slip to sleep syndrome’.

After your first slip, your first bite of something you didn’t have hunger for, your first phase of overeating, if you stop, you can minimize the damage to your psyche. Not to mention your body.

But what most of us do is continue the damage until we go to bed that night, bloated and wounded, adding insult to self-injury.

You’ve never blown it.

What does ‘blown it’ mean, anyway?