Recently, one of my favorite clients came to me with a bad case of overwhelm. She was in graduate school in an accelerated program, caring for her family, working in her own business and was responsible for all the other little details of life that fill our days to the brim.
She happens to be super-capable, and very smart, so she naturally expected herself to be getting A’s in all her graduate courses.
The problem with this was that it would require enormous amounts of study time that she chose to give to other things, like seeing her kids and her husband and sleeping. Working. Caring for herself. To name a few.
So, what I proposed was what one of my own professors in graduate school proposed to me: Dare to be mediocre.
What! This was the antithesis of everything I believed.
Be your best.
Always do your best.
Strive for excellence.
Never stop trying.
I’m not saying ‘Don’t care! Do sloppy work! Whatever!’
(By the way, I’m too old to say ‘whatever!’)
What I am saying and what I had to learn myself is this:
Life is short.
We have to pick and choose where we spend our precious time and attention. If you’d like to learn more about focus and where you choose to put yours, listen to my podcast Weight Loss Made Real, Episode 12, right here. <insert link to that podcast please on my website>
So not everything can net you a perfect result.
For this client, it meant striving for a B+ instead of her usual A.
Does that mean you don’t care about what you produce? Or your route? Or your end result?
You care very much.
But you are being intentionally picky.
You’re giving yourself permission to do ‘OK’ work in some areas of life.
Sometimes you’ll excel.
Sometimes you won’t.
But I’ll bet if you give yourself this permission to be mediocre sometimes, in some areas, you’ll surely enjoy the journey a lot more.
And let me know.
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