Weight loss doesn’t have to be so hard.
There. I’ve said it.
I can feel your jaw dropping. Fists clenching. And brows raising.
You know better.
After all, you’ve suffered for years. Why would you have made it hard if it wasn’t necessary?
Well, sometimes we do what feels natural, even if it isn’t right.
We suffer through something because we don’t know any other way. We see other women around us in a virtual prison, fighting nonstop with their own bodies. We become prison wardens to ourselves in our quest for thinness. We deprive ourselves of what we enjoy, and mentally beat ourselves if we slip. I don’t even want to talk about the kinds of abuse we heap onto ourselves when we are less than perfect.
There’s a big problem with dealing with weight loss this way.
Of course, the biggest problem is simply that it doesn’t work. I mean, have you lost your extra weight and kept it off by being a meanie to yourself?
Also, when we beat ourselves up, we feel worse. Ashamed. Sad. Hopeless. And when we feel these really low feelings, of course it stands to reason that we want to run away.
If you’re an emotional eater, you eat. That is the fastest way to escape yourself.
If this sounds familiar, I want you to think of someone you know who is naturally slim.
You know they don’t torture themselves. Much of the time they are peaceful and enjoy their life AND their food.
But they aren’t happy because they are slim. They are happy most of the time because they create a beautiful life. They treat themselves well. They enjoy their food and have nothing to run away from. So they are able to get to and stay at their natural weight without pain, and without drama.
Most of us who are emotional eaters walk around holding prison bars up to our faces.
We are not in prison, but we create our own prison of suffering.
And this becomes such a habit that we think it’s the only way to be, to live.
How can we let go of these bars and make it less hard? Even pleasurable?
I know that this is a tough concept to imagine. If you’ve been torturing yourself for years, you must believe that it’s the only way.
Why else would anyone treat themselves so badly?
I’m here to say there is another way.
But you have to begin by asking the right questions.
Not: Why am I so fat? Why am I so stupid? Or why can’t I do this?
Instead, ask, how can I feel good now? How can I make this easier for myself? And how can this experience feel so much better than it does?